At ten months old, I was admitted to Magic Valley Memorial Hospital in Twin Falls, ID just days after Dr. John McKain said with a slow, lazy smile to my mother, “I think you’re just being a nervous mom, but we’ll check it out.” Every time I was laid on my left side or back, I cried and turned blue.
He took me in his arms and walked me back to the x-ray department. I like to think he chuckled and talked to me. I imagine him saying, “You cute little thing. I bet you’re spoiled, aren’t you? You just like to be held and cuddled. That’s all well and good until you have to grow up. It’s better to just let you cry. It develops your lung capacity.”
He laid me on the cold, hard table on my back so they could get a clear shot of my chest cavity. I started crying, then I started turning blue.
When the x-ray was read, a Malignant Mesenchymosarcoma, one of the rarest forms of cancer, was discovered. A mushroom shaped growth was on the inside of my left rib cage, advancing toward my lungs, diminishing my capacity to breathe. When I sat up or lay on my right side, my lungs would fall away from the cancer and I could get the breath I needed to sustain my life.
Babies are very good at asking for what they need, but the problem is all they know how to do is cry. When I couldn’t get enough air in my lungs, I just hollered, which caused even more problems because I had less air. However, it also brought someone to pick me up, thereby restoring my lung capacity, air flow, and happiness. A happy baby creates more happiness.
They admitted me to the hospital, cut me from my sternum to my spine, and removed the cancer. Then they put a mesh in to give my ribs more stability and structure. I had to have follow up visits with the medical personnel to make sure I was healing, growing, and prospering in the best way possible.
The doctor asked my mom if they could share my medical records with others around the world, informing her that my case’s information would help save the lives of other infants.
Taming the Bully Between Your Ears is in many ways like that surgery. Not unlike my rare cancer, we all have a bully that lives in our heads and stops us from reaching our full capacity. We have settled for less than greatness. Many have given up, and some just complain. Others paint themselves blue because they don’t want to be part of the human race, so they dress up and pretend to be superheroes, aliens, and animals. Some have gone silent. Some die.
The problem is we have been conditioned by society that all of these tragedies are okay. We have learned to accept mediocrity and pain. We are suffering the effects of a bully cancer. Recent studies have shown that 80% of Americans don’t like their job. Divorce is so common that finding someone who hasn’t been through at least one is almost impossible. Suicide is on the rise in epidemic proportions everywhere. It strikes all ages, genders, and socioeconomic groups.
Our internalized bullies are stealing our dreams and lives. I will help you cut the bully cancer out. I can provide you with the help and support you need so you can reach your full capacity. My program will tell you what to put into your marvelous mind so you can heal, grow, and create your dream life.
You can then share your story with others. You can save lives with your experiences. You can uplift and empower all because you didn’t let the nasty little voice in your head stop you. Others may slow you down, but only you can stop you permanently.
It’s time to Tame the Bully Between Your Ears. It’s time to stop accepting things as they are and be the change in the world for others to learn from. Change is great. It happens anyway, so you might as well use it to make things better. Stop watching made-up characters on TV and in the movies and become your own best friend and superhero.
Everyone has potential, but. my question to you is, what are you doing with yours? It’s time to learn from your past and create your future. Just getting by is not good enough for you, your family, or your friends. To change the world one person at a time, you must start with yourself, then reach back and help others.
Let your dreams pull you into your future. Let your vision empower you.
It is much easier to help someone with a hand up than to try and push or carry them.
I invite you to shine.
I invite you to Tame the Bully Between Your Ears and go forth like you never have before.
Join me and the thousands of others that are changing our world by managing our thoughts.