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01 Jul 2014

Yuck Berries

Yuck berries

Have you ever had a yuck berry? I have had so many and they keep popping up. What’s a yuck berry? Thank you for asking. Let me explain further.

I got confronted recently by a stranger that was going through a hard time. How did I know they were going through a hard time? Because I have read the book Bully Proofing You: Improving Confidence and Personal Value from the Inside Out and in there is talks about how people lash out, not because of you, but because of where they are. Because they had yuck berries for breakfast, lunch, and maybe even dinner. They had something bad happen to them they didn’t understand so they wrapped it in an emotional charge, put a “be cool” shell around it, and filed it away in their mind to trip over later. Let me give you an example.

You might of noticed I like hats. When I was younger, my mom would put a hat on me. I’m 6’ and she is 5’ 3”. She told me it gave her a place to focus on so she could quit looking up. “It gives you a top.” She’d say. I did not know that some people hate hats. It took me by total surprise recently. I could understand if it was in your way at a play or movie theater. I always try to remember the people around and behind me if I am wearing a broad brimmed hat.

Hats are fun to buy, to wear, to chase in the wind, to find the perfect outfit for, to enjoy. Not so with everyone. I was told to take my hat off that is was the stupidest thing anyone had ever seen. Once I recovered from my shock, I said, “Thank you, can you tell me what my hat did to offend you so I can reprimand it?” Once she recovered from her shock, she told me of how she had purchased her first hat in Macy’s and as she was leaving the store she received a phone call. Her father had died in an accident. It devastated her. She never wore the hat. In fact, she had grown to hate hats and people that wore them. She passed a huge yuck berry that day and I didn’t create one. All in all it was a great day.

They next time something bad happens to you just say, “I’m so glad I didn’t have yuck berries for breakfast.” And let it go. Let them pass. Let the emotion move through you so it doesn’t get lodged and grow into something ugly and controlling.

It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to show all kinds of emotion. I use to bottle it up. Lord help you if you were around me when I burst a yuck berry. The more you stuff the bigger they are when they pass or the more controlling they become.

I don’t know if she has bought a new hat yet but I do know that her friends can now ware them around her. Baseball has an entirely new meaning to her now.

Pick one of your yuck berries and get rid of it. It’s time to plant something new.

Have an uplifting day,

PS The name “yuck berry” came from Blair Singer my mentor.

03 Jun 2014

The Human Effect

The Human Effect

Did you know that a human cannot hurt another human? It’s true. Humans can only hurt objects or things. You can lash out in pain to defend yourself but people don’t hurt other people. Many adults and young people have forgotten the human effect.

We must remember that everyone is human. We are doing the best we can with what we know and understand. We have others we love and dreams we want to live. We protect those we love and fear predators. We have the ability to put labels on everything.

When I call you a name, in my mind you become what I just called you. Advertising and movies do this all the time. The hero is justified in destroying the bad guy because he is bad. He is no longer human. The person advertising the product becomes the product. They become an object.

How do we get back to the human effect? We remember to have empathy. Empathy is putting yourself in that person’s shoes. If you can view a bully as a person in pain, you can deflect the attack. You won’t allow the words to impact you because you know they are not about you or your family. The attack is about the bully expressing pain and despair. It’s a cry for help. Maybe the bully doesn’t know any better and just needs to be educated. When you feel empathy for the bully, you will not be as impacted by what is said. You are less likely to feel bad about yourself or to try and retaliate. Retaliation makes it worse.

If your self-esteem is not strong enough to withstand some words from an angry person, then spend some time building it up. I gave many tips and tools on how to accomplish that in the first part of my book. When you have a healthy self-image, you have an attitude that things will be all right. You realize that whatever the bully said to hurt or intimidate you is not true, and you move on. You’re glad it’s not your life that is hopeless. Your attitude is one of faith and hope for the future. The bully’s is one of despair and fear. Have some compassion for the bully and come from a place of love for your fellow man.

Your ability to care for others can grow like a muscle you exercise. Practice acceptance of others and you will get better at it. Remember when you’ve had a bad day and cut them some slack. When you do have a bad day, pull yourself up by sharing your love with someone else. When you help someone, you help yourself. Sit by someone new at lunch, or help someone without asking for anything in return. The rewards you receive are priceless. When you give freely, your spirit will lift and your heart will be full.

Share your love today.

13 May 2014

Be a Thriver

One of my former students from Summit High School was a gang member. When he came to my class, he was facing tough charges. He was a big kid, about six-foot-four 275 pounds. He was tough and let everyone know it. He wanted revenge for the murder of a fellow gang member. I told him that hatred was like taking poison and expecting the other person to drop dead. It would never happen. He didn’t believe me, so I took him through an exercise I do with my participants when they are stuck. I showed him how his body was weakened by his thoughts. I performed the exercise three more times and, each time, his body was weakened by his thoughts of revenge. It proved to him that his thoughts affect his physical body. He changed over the next few months, and when he went home, he was different. I also know he had a tough road ahead of him, and I like to believe he made it. If you keep focused on what you really want, you will succeed.

Take a moment and think about what you want for your life. If money were no object, would you move to a nicer place? Would you go to school? Would you hang out with different people? Would you quit your job and go to work someplace nicer? Would you travel? What would you do?

Now here is the tricky part. It’s not about the money—it’s about the mind-set. It’s about your perspective. How many times in the last week have you said, “I can’t do that because _______.” Or “I have to do ________.” That’s not really true. You choose to do or not to do things based on your beliefs. Consider how your life would change if you changed your belief around a matter and took action toward something you wanted.

Let’s use the hypothetical belief of “I had bad things happen to me when I was younger, and so this is how I am now.” You can come up with one of your own. The reason I’m choosing the belief “bad things happened to me” is Elizabeth Smart, whose story made national headlines. When she was fourteen, she was kidnapped from her bedroom and forced to be the second wife of a man she didn’t even know. She was later saved and is now living her life on her terms. She is not a victim anymore. I don’t think she ever was. She just had bad things happen to her. She is strong and living her life to the fullest.

The difference between a victim and a thriver is the mindset. When you believe you can, you can.

T. Harv Eker, an author and motivational speaker, says, “You can have reasons or results, but you can’t have both.” It’s true. You can make excuses for where you are, or you can make different decisions and get the results you want. It’s all about perspective and how we believe things are.

Make the decision to be a thriver this week.

Talk to you soon,

22 Apr 2014

Coming Home

Coming Home

 Home. What do you think when you hear that word? I know we all have our own definition of what home means. Most times a picture comes to mind of where you grew up. To me, that is your house. When I think of home, it is all the emotions that come with the house.

What emotions do you feel when you think of home? I hope you are filled with love, security, belonging, togetherness, a safe place to make mistakes.  A place to learn and grow. I want everyone to feel like they are loved and that they belong because you are. It may not always be in your house where you feel that way, but you can always find a home. Home is where the heart is, not where the body is.

Home is a feeling that you can create for yourself and the ones you love. Did you know that you choose where to gather together? You have the power to create a home right now where ever you are. I have met people living in abject poverty that feel like kings and queens of their tiny castle. I have met families living in a modern day mansion feeling like paupers. It comes from your perspective about where you are.

I had the privilege of training with Blair Singer in Poland, and he said something very profound that I will never forget. He said, “It’s never too late to have a great childhood.” I’d like to add, “It’s never too late to have a great now.” Did you know you can change your life just by talking with others? You can ask people how they remember something and it will be different from the way you do. I guarantee it. This is true even with siblings raised in the same home, by the same parents,  living many of the same experiences. It is also true of whatever it is you are doing right now. If you are sharing an experience with someone, they are having a different one.

You are living with your filters and beliefs and they are doing the same with theirs. Take some time today and ask people what experience they are having. I bet you will find some are having a fabulously successful moment and others are not. The question is, Where do you fall on this graph? I hope it is closer to the mind- blowing fantastic exhilarating side than the I’m all alone and it’s hopeless one.

Once you find out where you are, you can change where you are going with the paradigm shifting power of thought. Amazing isn’t it! I challenge you to create a better home for yourself right now today. It’s never too late to have a great life.

Smile and enjoy the process,

16 Apr 2014


spent the last four days in a little room in Warsaw, Poland with about sixty incredible people learning how to make a difference in the world. It felt like a grass roots meeting from when America was birthed into a nation. Poland is an amazing country with special people. It has been an emotional trip for me.

After I had completed the training, I went out to see Warsaw. Today I went to Krakow. It is one thing to read about World War II and quite another to walk the ground on which it occurred. My feelings have been very raw. It is so painful for me to witness inhumanity in people; the concentration camps and labor camps were the pinnacle of inhumanity.

I know that it must never be allowed to happen again. My mission is to bully proof the world one community at a time by increasing confidence and personal value. We must guard against the evil in the world. We must guard against others that would hurt our children and families. We must take the time to educate the world to the horrors that follow a hardened heart. We must love our fellow man and have compassion when they are in pain.

Spend some time today connecting with others at the heart level. Really connect. Look into the eyes of a loved one and feel them. Let them know how precious they are to you. You never know how much time you have left to convey your love, so make sure you do it today. Take them in your arms if you can. Call them if you can’t. Make sure you do not go to bed without sharing your love.

Take care,

15 Apr 2014

Step One to Bully Proofing Yourself

I had an incredible interview with KSL radio as well as KEY radio and thought I would take a moment and put in writing some of what was said.

I talked about the steps to bully proofing and I and I want to share the first one with you today.

Number 1: Build Your Personal Value. I know that sounds trite but it is true. When I was told by others that someone needed to “build their self-confidence”, I didn’t understand what they meant. When I started teaching, I finally understood.

Personal value means to like yourself, to value yourself, to know you are important. There is something you must accomplish in your life time that no one else can do. God made you to do your work and if you don’t do it; it won’t get done.

When you realize you have value to add to this planet, you feel valuable. When you feel valuable, you treat yourself with respect. Treating yourself with respect means to take care of yourself. Think of something you treasure. It can be a person or a place or a thing. Now think about how you treat it. I bet it is with tenderness and care. If it is a thing, you handle it cautiously so it doesn’t get damaged. You keep it safe away from other objects that might cause it harm. You keep it clean and looking bright and shinny. You tell others to be careful with it because it has great value to you. Some of you show it off, some of you hide it away. This special thing has a special place. Am I right?

Now think of yourself. How do you treat yourself? Like something special? Like something valuable? I really hope so. If we had more people who loved and respected themselves, there would not be war or violence or abuse.  There would be no divorce or broken homes. Think of it for just a moment. How wonderful would it be to live in a world like that? You can and it starts with you respecting yourself.

When you come from a place of love and connection, you can do no harm to yourself or others. People hurt others because they are in pain. When you are in love, you want to spread love. When you enjoy your own company, you will enjoy others company. It is that simple.

I didn’t understand this for some time. Now I do and I want to help others understand this powerful concept. Think of your favorite department store. You’ve been shopping there for sometime. You know what to expect. You’ve been here before. One day while standing in line you see the person in front of you holding the perfect object. You have been looking for this piece for sometime. It is perfect. You have to know where she got it. You lean forward and ask, “Excuse me, where did you get that? It’s lovely.” She says, “Oh, thank you. I got it on the upper level.” Now wait a minute. You’ve been shopping here for sometime. There is no upper level. “How do you get to this upper level.” “Oh, you take the elevator that is in that back corner.” You get out of line and rush over there. You take the elevator to the second floor and as the door opens you see many things you have been missing. Wonderful valuable things and you wish you would have looked before now. That is how it is when you grow and understand more. It takes you to a level you didn’t even know existed.

I am inviting you to take your life to the next level. I want you to step up into a new and better you. You will find things here that will amaze you. You will see things others don’t know are possible. Then share the love and be the change you wish to see in the world. Gandhi had it right. It starts with you. You have to take the first step to loving yourself and not caring what others say. You are valuable!! You matter!! You are special!!! Never let any one take that from you.

Now go see how people treat you when you treat you as special.

13 Apr 2014

Aren’t You Glad I Don’t Believe That?

Aren’t You Glad I Don’t Believe That?

Those words spoken to a loved one in crisis about being called a name are priceless. I want you to use them the next time you are tempted to launch into a lecture about how what was said was not true. Let me explain.

“Mom, Timmy just called me the ugliest person he’s ever seen,” said my young daughter.

“Aren’t you glad I don’t believe that?” I said back. (I had learned this phrase from Jim Faye and Foster Cline at The Love and Logic Institute in Colorado This was the first time I had used it. It was hard for me to not follow protocol and spend the next 10-15 minutes explaining how she was beautiful. I saw a look of surprise cross her face and then a smile as she walked away. My jaw dropped. I couldn’t believe it worked. Those seven words changed both our lives. I still use them and my children use them on me. They work every time. I am transported to a supportive loving home with people that believe in me, and I know they are as well.

This little skill can become a habit that will help bully proof you and your kids from the inside out for a life time. It lets you know that people have opinions, but you don’t have to buy into them. Use this powerful statement the next time you are faced with negative comments. Teach them to your loved ones and feel your future change. Watch everyday as action is taken to make life better. Hear the words that are used to empower and give thanks that you were handed a very useful tool that is so easy to implement. Now pass it on to someone else.

See you at a training soon,

03 Mar 2014

You Are More Powerful Than You Know

You Are Powerful.

Never underestimate the power of your actions. With one small gesture, you can change a person’s life. There is no coincidence. God puts us all in each other’s lives to impact one another in some way. You do make a difference. You impact others just by being in their lives. You may not know the effect you have at the moment, but you still have the impact. This next story happened to me in the early 1990s while I worked as a waitress in Salt Lake City, Utah.

I was a single parent to my beautiful daughter, Erin. Money was tight and we were on state assistance. I worked three jobs and attended the University of Utah. I knew that if I didn’t go to school, our lives would be harder, and I had to go while she was young so she wouldn’t remember the sacrifices. I am proud to say she never went to bed hungry. She always had food,  shelter, and plenty of love.

Times were hard, and I didn’t always know what was next. One evening while I was waitressing at Two Guys From Italy across from the Salt Palace where the Utah Jazz basketball team played, I had the privilege of waiting on Mark Eaton when he and his wife came for dinner after a game. People talked to him all evening. At the time, I didn`t know he was a player for the Jazz. I just saw how nice he was to everyone who stopped by his table to speak with him. He never turned anyone away.

At closing time, my manager wanted to go home. I told him I would stay and let the couple finish eating because they hadn’t had any time alone. I didn’t mind; Erin was sleeping at Grandma’s so it didn’t matter what time I picked her up. Jose, the busboy, said he would stay as well. For the next few hours, it was just the four of us. I let Mark and his wife know the kitchen would be closing, but they could stay as long as they liked. I would keep their drinks full and serve them any dessert they wanted.

It was past two o’clock when they finally got up to leave. After Mark paid the bill, he gave Jose and me a one-hundred-dollar bill each. I was shocked. I had never seen that kind of money before, at least not in one bill! I didn’t think I deserved it, but then Mark said, “You gave me a lovely, uninterrupted dinner with my wife. We don’t get that very often and it means a great deal to me. Thank you.”

As I drove home that evening, I thought about all the things I could buy: food, clothes, parts to fix my car. I had received a blessing, and to this day Mark Eaton is one of my heroes, and he doesn’t even know it.

When you touch other people with positive energy, they are empowered to do things they did not believe possible. When I do an experiential training, I cut up a pen to show how we can take what we are handed and make a better “us” with it. You decide how others impact you. You decide who has power over you, and with that decision, you empower others.

Meet you somewhere soon,

27 Feb 2014

It’s not about what’s on your helmet. It’s about what’s in your head. Part 2

It’s not about what’s on your helmet. It’s about what’s in your head.

Part 2

 Let’s go back and cover that again. I’m not so sure I got it all the first time. Fort Dix, New Jersey, the summer of 1987. My company is standing behind an earthen embankment on the live grenade range. Private Smith (not her real name) is coming down the dirt road approaching the Training Instructor, TI. We all see the two very large eyes drawn on her helmet. She enters the concrete stall. She takes the live grenade from the TI. She crouches down; she pulls the pin.  She stands up; pops the spoon, and DROPS THE GRENADE IN THE STALL AT HER FEET!!! Do you understand what just happened? In about three seconds, Private Smith and the TI will no longer be on this earth.

Everyone froze, the earth stood still, and we all held our breath. Then the TI grabs Smith, throws her over the wall into the stall next to them, and jumps in after. He covers her with his body to protect her. At this time, I don’t think I’ve breathed yet, and the world is still frozen. Then it explodes into a million pieces. Debris hits the windows and the earth shakes. The entire company is like statues. Then it really gets crazy.

Private Smith is thrown out the back of the stall. The TI is shouting and pointing off to the right. She takes off running and we realize what the eyes mean. They mean; look out. Beware! She might kill you! We all want to know what is on our helmets. We want to know if we were measured and found lacking. We turn to our ranger buddies and ask, “WHAT’S ON MY HELMET?”

This is the part I wish my mature self could go back to. The part I look back on and say to my young inexperienced self. “What are you doing? It doesn’t matter. You are a go at this station. You were successful. Stop worrying what someone else thought of you and look at what you accomplished.”

I was the platoon leader. I was in charge. I should have said something. I should have said, “It’s not about what’s on your helmet. It’s about what you believe about yourself. It’s about what you have accomplished. It’s about the fact that you are on this side of the embankment. It’s about the fact that you were successful.”

I can forgive my young self. I didn’t know then what I know now. I didn’t know then that I decide how I feel about myself, that I build and choose my self-esteem. I place determine my personal value.

That is no longer an excuse. I know better. I can no longer remain silent and allow others to give false information to my children or yours. I can no longer stand by while adults feel bad because someone said something to them years ago that left a scar.

You bully proof yourself with your belief in who you are. You decide what you believe about yourself and others just validate you. No one can bully you without your permission.

You will never control what others say to you or about you, but you can control how it impacts you. Charles Swindoll says, “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.”

Mean words only leave a mark if you let them. When you know you are valuable, you’re rubber and they’re glue for real. What they say does bounce off you because you have a different belief. Their opinion does not matter because you know differently.

It is my mission to step into my power as a leader, trainer, parent, and human and let you know that it doesn’t matter what someone has written on your helmet. It matters what you believe about yourself. It matters what you tell yourself.

What is your internal dialog? Keep track of it for a week. Put a piece of paper in your pocket and for the next seven days write down the things you say to yourself. Then listen to what others say to you. I bet you say worse things than they do. STOP IT. Harness the power of your mind and make it work for you instead of against you. You control your mind. No one else can, so you better.

Remind yourself of all the things you have accomplished in your life. Remind yourself that you are a magnificent being created for an important purpose.  Now take action to live that purpose. Step into your power and live your life.

I never saw Private Smith again, but I hope she realized that she can always fix a mistake. With perseverance and the ability to measure, monitor, and adjust she can create any future she wants. I like to think she is an expert on the grenade range, maybe even a high ranking officer. Whatever she chose, I know you can leave the victim story behind and step into your power and create the life you want.

Make the decision that you are who you are not what someone says you are.

Until next time,

26 Feb 2014

It’s not about what’s on your helmet. It’s about what’s in your head.

It’s not about what’s on your helmet. It’s about what’s in your head.

 I remember basic training at Fort Dix, New Jersey well.  However, one day really stands out. That day was when we threw live grenades.

I was first platoon leader because I was the tallest person in the company. That was how they assigned positions when I was there– the tallest down to the shortest so when marching we looked uniform. So because I was at the front, I got to go through the grenade range first.

When we arrived at the open range; the Training Instructors (TI’s) met and told us the layout and what would be happening. From our formation the practice range was off to our left and the live range was a short distance beyond on the right. They put us at ease and demonstrated the proper way to aim, throw, and recover.

The practice range was open with not much around it. It did have a wooden wall about 4’ tall. The live range was harder to see because it had a very large earth embankment surrounding most of it. We would move from the practice range to the live range one at a time. When we were done at the live range, we could gather behind the embankment and watch the others. There were some small windows of 10” thick clear material that we could see through.  We were not to go anywhere else but stay with the protection of the earth embankment. Safety first.

I have to admit I was a little nervous being the first. I like watching and learning from others.   That way I don’t make as many mistakes. There was some time between the instruction and demo phase and the action phase. The voice inside my head was going crazy. I was going to die. I was going to make a fool of myself. I was going to kill the TI. I was going to screw up and be doing the low crawl and pushups for the rest of my life. On and on it went until they told us to fall in. Then my mind went blank, and I started to sweat.

Everything in basic training is done on a run or at the march so I am sure I did one or the other; I just don’t remember which one. I’m pretty sure I ran up to the TI because I remember I was breathing really hard. He handed me the first practice grenade and told me to throw. I got to throw three in all. Then he took a large piece of chalk and wrote something on my helmet.  Told me to get going and pointed toward the live range.

I could see the TI for the live range and I ran toward him. I approached the live range from the side. I had a road in front of me, the earth embankment on the right, a thick concrete wall about 4’ tall and 10’ wide on the left, and past the wall an open field with craters in it.  The TI was standing about half way down the road and it looked like he was standing in the wall. As I passed the end of the wall, I realized the wall wasn’t 10’ wide, but that it had stalls in it (like our cow barn with sleeping stalls).  Each stall was about 4’ wide with very thick concrete dividing them. The TI was standing in one of the stalls. I ran into the stall. He looked at my helmet, handed me a grenade, and told me to throw.

I took the live grenade, crouched down, pulled the pin, stood up, aimed, popped the spoon, threw, and hit the dirt in the stall. There was a loud explosion. He tapped my shoulder, told me I was a go and to move behind the embankment.

Each exercise during basic is classified as a go or a no go. If you are a go, that means you have done a good job and can move on. If you are a no go, you must redo the exercise until you get it right or they send you back to start over with another company.

I was relieved that I had performed satisfactorily and now could watch everyone else to see how they’d do. As the company moved through the exercise, the number of us behind the embankment grew larger than the number waiting to go. We were almost done. Everyone was relaxed and having a good time telling each other how they had done. The ones behind the embankment told the ones just finishing how far they had thrown.

All of a sudden we noticed a private coming down the road with two big eyeballs drawn on her helmet. We all had no idea what that meant. It quieted down as we all watched her approach the TI. He grabbed her and pulled her into the stall right next to him. He handed her the grenade but did not move back. She crouched down, pulled the pin, stood up, popped the spoon, and dropped it in the stall. The TI grabbed her, threw her over the wall into the next stall, and then jumped over himself. He covered her with his body. There was a loud explosion and all kinds of debris hit the windows. We couldn’t see a thing for a moment. The cloud of earth and smoke cleared just in time for us to see the TI pick her up and throw her out the back of the stall. He was yelling at her and pointing to a place off to the right that we couldn’t see. She got up and ran.

All of us behind the earthen embankment immediately turned to one another and asked, “What’s on my helmet?” We had forgotten that we had completed the exercise.  We forgot what we had done and began worrying what someone else thought of us. I would like to say that as the leader I stepped forward and pointed that out to everyone, but I didn’t. I was right there with them wondering what was on my helmet.

However, I am here to tell you now that it is not about what’s on your helmet that counts. It’s about what’s in your head. It’s about what you believe about yourself and what you can do. It’s not about what others think of you. It’s about what you have accomplished. It’s about all the wonderful things that make up you.

That is what my book Bully Proofing You is all about. It’s about teaching you and reminding you that it’s not about what’s on your helmet, it’s about your belief in yourself.

Thanks for letting me share with you. Please pass this story on to someone you feel would benefit from it. Until next time, remember all the wonderful things you are.

Take Care,

19 Feb 2014

The Choices You Make

Take a moment and think about what you want for your life. If money were no object, would you move to a nicer place? Would you go to school? Would you hang out with different people? Would you quit your job and go to work someplace nicer? Would you travel? What would you do?
Now here is the tricky part. It’s not about the money—it’s about your mind-set. It’s about your perspective. How many times in the last week have you said, “I can’t do that because _______.” Or “I have to do ________.” That’s not really true. You choose to do or not to do things based on your beliefs. Consider how your life would change if you changed your belief and took action toward something you wanted.
Let’s use the hypothetical belief of “I had bad things happen to me when I was younger, and so this is how I am now.” You can come up with one of your own. I’m going to challenge this belief and the resulting person you have become because of it, so you might want to start with one that’s easier for you to confront.
The reason I’m choosing the belief “bad things happened to me” is to use the example of Elizabeth Smart, whose story made national headlines. When she was fourteen, she was kidnapped from her bedroom and forced to be the second wife of a man she didn’t even know. She was later saved and is now living her life on her terms. She is not a victim anymore. She is strong and living her life to the fullest. She made the decision to leave the past in the past and create a wonderful future for herself. I recommend reading her book if you have some past abuse you need to overcome.
T. Harv Eker , an author and motivational speaker says, “You can have reasons or results, but you can’t have both.” It’s true. You can make excuses for where you are, or you can make different decisions and get the results you want. It’s all about perspective and how we believe things are. Do you find yourself saying things that become true? Do you predict your day in shower? Do you blame others for where you find yourself?
I challenge you to take responsibility for were you are because when you take control of your decisions you can make new ones. I like telling myself that a bad decision can always be followed by a good one. I can measure, monitor, and adjust my decisions based on my results. If I don’t have the results I want, I just change my decisions and action steps.
Bad things happened to good people and good things happen to bad people. The difference is the everyday experiences. The way you choose to deal with what has happened creates your life. I just wanted to make you aware of what is happening between your ears so you can live your life consciously. Use your marvelous mind to create joy and abundance for yourself and your family. You’ll be glad you did.
Keep moving forward,