The Biggest Bully
Sometimes the biggest bully is the one between your ears. That’s right. I have heard myself and my friends say things to themselves that they are just horrible. This week, let’s talk about how to deal with the bully that lives in your own head.
I lived with mine for years before I realized it was me. I thought it was my conscience telling me what I was doing wrong. I was in my thirties before I realized it was just me attacking myself. I still wrestle with it, but I have learned some things that help me. I want to share them with you.
1. When I realized I am talking down or calling myself names for a mistake I made. I say “Thank you for sharing.”
2. I remind myself that I am loved; I am valuable; I am needed in this time and place.
3. I ask myself, “How could I have done better?”
4. I apply my new-found knowledge
1. When I don’t like my body and say very mean things to myself, I again start with, “Thank you for sharing.”
2. I list 10 things I like about my body and the wonderful things can do because of it.
I made the decision a few years back that it was time to start loving me. That includes my body. I was looking in the mirror telling myself how much weight I had gained. I wished I could have my twenty year old body back. Then all of a sudden, I realized I had said the same thing at twenty. I didn’t like my body then either. I decided it was time to start loving my body.
The things we can do have always fascinated me. That is part of the reason I become a health teacher. I love studying this amazing thing we find our souls housed in. Just spend some time today with yourself thinking of all the wonderful things you can do because you have a body. Compare yourself to yourself, not some ideal society has put forth that can’t be attained without computer touch ups.
Do you have hands and feet? I know people who don’t and can still do more things than I can. Can you read and write? There are people who can’t, but yet they still find a way to get things done. Be thankful for who you are and what you can do. You have special talents that are needed right now, so make sure you use them to their fullest. You do not help this world by playing small.
Take time every day to love and honor yourself. Stop the bully between your ears and live your life to its fullest. It’s better that way. I know. I’ve been there.
Thanks for spending time with me today.
Have a wonderful one,