Category: Thoughts and Suggestions

I live in Cedar Hills, Ut and today it’s raining. I love the rain it reminds me of Morton, Washington. My home town. I have all my windows and doors open enjoying the smell and the cool air.

Yesterday it was in the 90’s and has been for some time. We need the water and so does mother earth.

Enjoying the weather got me to thinking about my life and how I have learned to control the weather in my mind and in my home. It’s a powerful thing to be able to do and it takes practice and time.

I go into more detail, about 16 min., in my podcast. http://bullyproofingu.com/podcasts/control-the-weather-in-your-home/

Let me know if you enjoy it or not.

Have a beautiful day my friend,

Are you tired of doctors practicing on you? I’m not knocking doctors they are valuable members of our life. I’m just tired of so many mixed and differing views and trying to sift through it all.

I also know that my body is very sensitive to medications. I’ve become allergic to just about every antibiotic there is. I use to take about half of what was prescribed.

I would get a UTI and if you’ve had one your experience might be like mine. I would feel the first tinges coming on and by the time I could get to the doctor and get my medicine I would be peeing blood.

Then I found doTERRA Lemon Grass. Now, I take three drops in a veggie cap and my body uses it to help its self heal the infection. No blood no pain no problems.

If you have recurring UTI’s or other ailments, you might what to check doTERRA out. They’re 100% natural. If the bottle says lemon grass, that’s the only thing in that bottle.

I could go on and on about how we have been able to take care of so many other ailments with a book and a box but I won’t. I’ll just invite you to a Zoom class tonight.

I would love for you to join me tonight and every Tuesday night at 7:00 PM Mountain time on Zoom for our Intro To Oils Class.

You can join us by going to tiny.cc/IntoToOils. Send me a text to let me know if you going to attend so I can send you a gift. 801-735-5746.

I look forward to connecting with you this evening.

Have a blessed day,

If you’re like I used to be, you say things to yourself you would never think of saying to anyone else.

Sometimes I still do. That is why I teach Tools for Taming the Bully Between Your Ears. So I don’t drift from my path and go back to old ways.

I’m so glad that others get so much out of what I have learned. It saves them time, energy, and money to learn from me and my mistakes.

You can as well. I have a few more spots for the online Zoom meeting this Saturday at 10:00 AM Mountain time for you and your family to join me.

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When: May 22, 2021 10:00 AM Mountain Time (US and Canada)
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I’ll see you Saturday.

Yes, you!

I want to personally invite you to something special. This is a project from my heart, which is why I’m reaching out to your directly, to extend you a personal invitation! I’d love you to join me for a special, free, Virtual Gala this Thursday evening.

It’s called, “RAISE THE ROOF: A Night to Inspire!” Presented by my dear friend’s nonprofit, SHEROES United, they’ve put together the most extraordinary night you can watch from the comfort of your home!

I’m pleased to announce, that Kechi Okwuchi, is our Keynote Speaker and Singer! Kechi will be sharing her remarkable story of overcoming a deadly plane crash, where she was one of only two survivors (out of 120). She sustained burns over 65% of her body – and yet “she rose” to stand against bullies, hatred and self-doubt to become an award-winning singer on American’s Got Talent, a TEDx speaker, and beloved American icon of deep beauty and resilience.

Her team reached out to other motivational musicians: Christian Rapper Chris James, known as 5ive, David Archuleta & Paul Cardall, as well as Hillary Weeks!

I’m personally stoked to share my friend and comedian Jason Hewlett. You’ll also never forget the inspiring stories of Lance Schiffman, Sarah Finkelstein, Allicia Johnson and yours truly. You will also hear, firsthand, from a brave survivor of human trafficking as she comes on to share her story.

So, what is this night all about?

First, to bring hope to what has been for many, a dark and dreary world. People are ready for spring, ready for hope, ready to be awake and to be inspired! Bridget’s organization is one that DARES to change the world through love. DARE to us = Dignity. Action. Respect. & Education.

Second, your participation helps us in our work to help women and families rise beyond trauma and victimization into victory! Your support helps us to abolish human trafficking, eradicate domestic violence, and support women vets and 1st responders all overcome very real trauma and RISE. Our programs have been successfully utilized in prisons, with refugees, in domestic violence shelters, and with survivors of human trafficking. We create a way for them to create self-mastery and rise as leaders. How? What we have discovered is that when we are needed, we rise.

If you have the desire to know more of what we’re about, please join me during this free, livestreamed event! Thursday, May 20 from 7-8:30pm @SHEROES United Facebook Page, or online at www.SHEROESUnited.org.

I’m so excited to have you with me. You’ll be able to witness my heart in motion.

I do have one favor to ask. I need you, and your influence.

Do you know someone who has been struggling and who might deeply need this night to be inspired? I’d love it if you asked them to join you. At some time in each of our lives, just knowing someone cares enough to invite us and can make all the difference in the world.

Also, feel free to share on your social media if you are inspired? My team and I can use all the help we can get, and we would be honored if you help more people know.

#RaiseTheRoof #SHEROESUnited #ANightToInspire #DARE #DoubleDogDARE

#AbolishTrafficking #EradicateDV #SupportWomenWarriors #WW1R

Warm hugs of love, excitement and gratitude for you!
Have a blessed day and I look forward to seeing you there.

Everyday before my family leaves the safety of our home, I pray for them to be safe on their journey.

Do you talk to God?

This past weekend my husband and I were speaking with one of my mentors at his home in Provo. Laurence mentioned how he had lost his glove at work and spent 10 minutes looking for it. He kind of chuckled and said, “I didn’t move ten feet. I looked every where. I even pulled my truck forward to see if it was under the side dump. I never did find it.”

My mentor, Kirk, told us an amazing story that I’m going to try and share with you.

He said, “Awhile back two of my friends were driving to see another friend who lived about 30 minutes away. To get to the home they had to cross a toll bridge. Since they didn’t usually carry money to two friends made sure they had exact change for the tollbooth. They stacked five quarters on their console and continually checked them throughout their drive. The quarters never moved.

Upon arriving at the tollbooth, the driver of the car reached over to grab the stack of coins to pay the fee. The coins were gone. They looked everywhere. The money had just diapered. Vanished if you will.

With nothing to do but turn around and head back toward home, they did just that. With a bit of frustration I might add. To their astonishment, not ten minutes later, the coins showed back up on the console as they were driving toward home.

They deduced they were not supposed to see their friend that day. God is the master of delay when it is needed.”

I looked at my husband as we both thought of the two accidents he had narrowly missed on Friday. The day he lost his glove. One of the accidents had caused a fatality. Why was my husband spared? I don’t know but I do believe in the power of prayer.

Do you? https://player.vimeo.com/video/99154214

Have a beautiful day my friend and go with God.

Happy Mother’s Day,

Even if we are not all mothers we are all mothering in some way and at some point we had a mom and Mom’s are special.

This mother’s day I want to give you a gift in honor of my mom who passed away Nov. 5, 2016. My way of saying thank-you for opening your email just like she opened her arms to me every time I needed a hug. I know many people don’t open their arms or their emails any more but you do and I felt you should be rewarded.

Kind of my way of giving you a hug from a distance.

You’re invited to my next Zoom training absolutely FREE. All others have to pay a small fee, $27, but not you, your family, and your friends. As long as they’re in the room with you, they can attend FREE of charge as my guest. Thanks to you. (Please do NOT share this link with anyone.)

You can register for our May 22 Tools for Taming the Bully Between Your Ears here. The class will be held two Saturday’s from now at 10:00 AM MST. So, invite your friends and family over for some breakfast or lunch after and join me for a training that will change your life for the better.

Not everyone is receiving this email. However, space is limited so please take a moment now and register before it’s to late. Also, the first five people to register get another special gift from me. Why? Because I love you and I want to show it.

Happy Mother’s Day to you. May you be blessed today and every day.

As I was watching the above video and thinking of my mom, I realized the things it was saying were true of me as well. I’m a mom and I hope my kids feel the same way I do about my mom.

I love you to the moon and back.

Have a beautiful day,

Everyday before my family leaves the safety of our home, I pray for them to be safe on their journey.

Do you talk to God?

This past weekend my husband and I were speaking with one of my mentors at his home in Provo. Laurence mentioned how he had lost his glove at work and spent 10 minutes looking for it. He kind of chuckled and said, “I didn’t move ten feet. I looked every where. I even pulled my truck forward to see if it was under the side dump. I never did find it.”

My mentor, Kirk, told us an amazing story that I’m going to try and share with you.

He said, “Awhile back two of my friends were driving to see another friend who lived about 30 minutes away. To get to the home they had to cross a toll bridge. Since they didn’t usually carry money to two friends made sure they had exact change for the tollbooth. They stacked five quarters on their console and continually checked them throughout their drive. The quarters never moved.

Upon arriving at the tollbooth, the driver of the car reached over to grab the stack of coins to pay the fee. The coins were gone. They looked everywhere. The money had just diapered. Vanished if you will.

With nothing to do but turn around and head back toward home, they did just that. With a bit of frustration I might add. To their astonishment, not ten minutes later, the coins showed back up on the console as they were driving toward home.

They deduced they were not supposed to see their friend that day. God is the master of delay when it is needed.”

I looked at my husband as we both thought of the two accidents he had narrowly missed on Friday. The day he lost his glove. One of the accidents had caused a fatality. Why was my husband spared? I don’t know but I do believe in the power of prayer.

Do you? https://player.vimeo.com/video/99154214

Have a beautiful day my friend and go with God.

I wanted to share one of my favorite stories with you, <>,

Some years ago, on a hot summer day in south Florida, a little boy decided to go for a swim in the old swimming hole behind his house. In a hurry to dive into the cool water, he ran out the back door, leaving behind shoes, socks, and shirt as he went.

He flew into the water, not realizing that as he swam toward the middle of the lake, an alligator was swimming toward the shore.

His father working in the yard saw the two as they got closer and closer together. In utter fear, he ran toward the water, yelling to his son as loudly as he could.

Hearing his voice, the little boy became alarmed and made a U-turn to swim to his father. It was too late. Just as he reached his father, the alligator reached him. From the dock, the father grabbed his little boy by the arms just as the alligator snatched his legs. That began an incredible tug-of-war between the two. The alligator was much stronger than the father, but the father was much too passionate to let go. A farmer happened to drive by, heard the screams, raced from his truck, took aim and shot the alligator.

Remarkably, after weeks and weeks in the hospital, the little boy survived. His legs were extremely scarred by the vicious attack of the animal. And, on his arms, were deep scratches where his father’s fingernails dug into his flesh in his effort to hang on to the son he loved.

The newspaper reporter, who interviewed the boy after the trauma, asked if he would show him his scars. The boy lifted his pant legs. And then, with obvious pride, he said to the reporter, “But look at my arms. I have great scars on my arms, too. I have them because my Dad wouldn’t let go.”

We all have scars. My favorite scars are the ones that came from my heavenly father not letting go of me in my deepest pain filled moments. The way He fights for me, even to the point of His own death, reminds me that I’m special in His eyes.

I don’t always share those stories because I’m not sure how they will be received. I’ve decided that I can no longer let that stop me from sharing His amazing love and grace.

Remember, no matter where you are, God is there. He is waiting for you to connect with Him. He loves you no matter what. All you need do is say His name and He will come into your life and change it.

How do I know? He has done that for me.

Have a blessed day my friend.

You Never Know

One day, when I was a freshman in high school, I saw a kid from my
class walking home from school. His name was Kyle. It looked like
he was carrying all of his books. I thought to myself, ‘Why would
anyone bring home all his books on a Friday? He must really be a
nerd.’

I had quite a weekend planned (parties and a football game with my
friends tomorrow afternoon), so I shrugged my shoulders and went on..

As I was walking, I saw a bunch of kids running toward him. They ran
at him, knocking all his books out of his arms and tripping him so he
landed in the dirt. His glasses went flying, and I saw them land in
the grass about ten feet from him.

He looked up and I saw this terrible sadness in his eyes. My heart
went out to him. So, I jogged over to him as he crawled around looking
for his glasses, and I saw a tear in his eye. As I handed him his
glasses, I said, ‘Those guys are jerks. They really should get
lives.’

‘He looked at me and said, ‘Hey thanks!’ There was a big smile on his
face. It was one of those smiles that showed real gratitude. I helped
him pick up his books, and asked him where he lived. As it turned out,
he lived near me, so I asked him why I had never seen him before.

He said he had gone to private school before now. I would have never
hung out with a private school kid before. We talked all the way home,
and I carried some of his books. He turned out to be a pretty cool
kid. I asked him if he wanted to play a little football with my
friends.

He said yes. We hung out all weekend and the more I got to know Kyle,
the more I liked him, and my friends thought the same of him. Monday
morning came, and there was Kyle with the huge stack of books again. I
stopped him and said, ‘Boy, you are gonna really build some serious
muscles with this pile of books everyday!

‘He just laughed and handed me half the books. Over the next four
years, Kyle and I became best friends. When we were seniors we began
to think about college. Kyle decided on Georgetown and I was going to
Duke. I knew that we would always be friends, that the miles would
never be a problem. He was going to be a doctor and I was going for
business on a football scholarship.

Kyle was valedictorian of our class. I teased him all the time about
being a nerd. He had to prepare a speech for graduation. I was so
glad it wasn’t me having to get up there and speak.

On Graduation day, I saw Kyle. He looked great. He was one of those
guys that really found himself during high school. He filled out and
actually looked good in glasses. He had more dates than I had and all
the girls loved him.

Boy, sometimes I was jealous! Today was one of those days.

But I could see that he was nervous about his speech. So, I smacked
him on the back and said, ‘Hey, big guy, you’ll be great!’ He looked
at me with one of those looks (the really grateful one) and smiled.
‘Thanks,’ he said.

As he started his speech, he cleared his throat, and began
‘Graduation is a time to thank those who helped you make it through
those tough years. Your parents, your teachers, your siblings, maybe a
coach…but mostly your friends… I am here to tell all of you that
being a friend to someone is the best gift you can give them. I am
going to tell you a story.’

I just looked at my friend with disbelief as he told the first day we
met. He had planned to kill himself over the weekend. He talked of how
he had cleaned out his locker so his Mom wouldn’t have to do it later
and was carrying his stuff home. He looked hard at me and gave me a
little smile. ‘Thankfully, I was saved. My friend saved me from doing
the unspeakable.’

I heard the gasp go through the crowd as this handsome, popular boy
told us all about his weakest moment. I saw his Mom and Dad looking at
me and smiling that same grateful smile. Not until that moment did I
realize its depth.

Everywhere you go you have an impact. You decide wither it’s a good
one or a negative one.

Never underestimate the power of your actions. With one small gesture
you can change a person’s life. For better or for worse. God puts us
all in each other’s lives to impact one another in some way. Look for
Good in others.

I do not know who the “I” is in the story. I received it as an email many years ago.
I just think it’s an incredible reminder of the impact we have on others.

I have a confession to make and I talk about it for the first time in my podcast.

It is one of those moments that just knocked me to my knees. I’m so glad I was able to work through the struggle and find the gold nugget.

I trust you will enjoy listening to the recording and maybe even check out some of the others.

You are invited to a Zoom webinar.
When: Apr 10, 2021 10:00 AM Mountain Time (US and Canada)
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I look forward to seeing you April 10 at 10:00 AM MST.

Have a beautiful day,

The following was a part of my upcoming book that got cut and landed on the editing floor. I think it still has great value and I wanted to share it with you. It also shows the effort and caliber of this new book. If this story got cut, just think of the others that got the green light.

I have had to overcome a very negative voice between my ears when it comes to my body. When I was in my twenties, I hated my legs, and convinced myself that I had a good reason to. I have had varicose veins since I was twenty-three. The veins on my legs stuck out and could be red, swollen, and painful. I also have had spider veins for many years, so it can look like I have large bruises. Every time I glanced down at my legs, I cringed. I had just gotten divorced and was thinking of starting to date.

Yuck! the bully started in as I gazed at my reflection one morning when I was in my thirties.. No one will ever get past your ugly legs. You better cover them up. What will people say when you go to the beach? They’re never going get past those dreadful things. Don’t show anyone until they have had a chance to get to know you better. Those legs are a deal breaker for sure. Run away!

Really? “Run-away”? I started giggling at the ridiculousness of my hurtful thoughts. I stepped back and looked at how I had been treating myself. I asked the voice in my head a very powerful question: “How can I get someone to love being in my space if I hate being in mine so much?”

That’s a good question, my bully replied. It’s kind of a double standard, isn’t it?

I realized this was true and told myself to recognize how amazing the body could be. . . even if I felt mine was lacking.

Haven’t I done so much for you? my body spoke up inside my head. What about the remarkable feat of creating another human inside of you? Doesn’t that deserve some respect?

I frowned, unable to dispute this fact. When I thought about being a mom and how much I loved my children, a new realization hit me: my body was unbelievable, creating the miracle of life. It was downright astonishing, in fact!

I did that! Me, your body. Can I get a thank you?

“Thank you!” I said aloud, smiling at myself in the mirror for one of the first times in a long time. “A thousand times, thank you.”

You’re welcome, my body said back. We, your body systems, would like to have more love and respect. We do so much for you and we are tired of the way you treat us. Everyone else was ready to go on strike. You know, shut down? But I, your marvelous mind, convinced them to give you another chance. You’re a loving, kind person, just not to yourself. I told them if we alerted you to the fact that you weren’t being very considerate of us, you would change your ways. Am I correct in assuming so?

I felt a wave of gratitude rush over me; if I didn’t love and respect my body, one day it could indeed shut down on me. I thought of my children and extended family, my friends, and all the amazing things I wanted to do. . . all of which I couldn’t accomplish without the amazing body I was given.

I love my life and I love my body, I thought confidently. I love my hair and my eyes. I know I am the perfect size for the things I need to do.

That was the start of my first “100 things I love about my body” list. The pleasure and joy I now have is vastly different than my life before. I would like to invite you to heal the relationship you have with your body. Think about the number one complaint you have with your body. Now, what would happen if you no longer had that body part or system?

I use to complain about being fat. Even when I didn’t have any extra body fat, I still called myself fat. Crazy, I know, but guess what? Now, I have extra body fat. Did I speak that into my future? Did I create that? Definitely something to consider.

Let me know what you come up with.

Have a beautiful day,

Saturday at 3:39 AM I was awoken with the thought that my body it a temple and that it is created in the image of God. You see, I have working on eating a healthier diet, getting more exercise, and reducing stress. And, I’ve been struggling. Will power wasn’t enough. I needed a perspective change so God gave me a very nice one.

I wouldn’t walk into my home of worship and spray paint mean and hateful words all over the walls. I wouldn’t even do that in an outhouse. Why am I doing that to my body?

The things I say about my body can be pretty mean. I have improved but I needed to take the next step.

I got out my Holy Bible and looked up some verses to help me solidify my new belief about my body. The ones I found are 1 Corinthians 3:16-17; 6:19-20; 10:23-26. You might enjoy looking them up as well.

We are God’s creation. That means he owned me once. Then He sent His son to die for me on the cross. That means he bought me again and still I was devaluing the gift He gave me.

Well, I’m happy to say I’ve upgraded my language and tamed that bully. I hope once and for all. However, I am human and I just might have to ask forgiveness a few billion more times. It happens.

Thank goodness God is so good.

We will be talking about this and other Tools for Taming the Bully Between Your Ears Saturday March 13 starting at 10:00 AM Mountain Time and I would love to have you join us.

This will be an international Zoom training because I have people from Poland, West Africa, and New Jersey.  As well as the greater Salt Lake Area.

I hope you will join us as well.

You are invited to a Zoom webinar.

When: Mar 13, 2021 10:00 AM Mountain Time (US and Canada)

Topic: Tools for Taming the Bully Between Your Ears

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Have a beautiful day and I’ll see you soon,