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10 May 2019

Did someone say a birthday party?

It’s my husband’s birthday today. He’ll be 53. He’s a happy man.

I don’t know why so many people have a problem with getting older or telling their age. First of all, it’s just a number. Second of all, it’s better than being dead.

I love getting older. I enjoy life more all the time. I learn new things and get to implement them. I have learned enough that I am an expert at somethings and can hire people to do the things I’m not good at or don’t want to do.

I enjoy working out and staying fit and healthy. I am committed to staying with it and making it a priority. It use to be. Then I allowed myself to fall into the thought process that I was getting older and it was alright to be out of shape. No, it is not. Not for me; not any more.

It is not okay to have a little stomach in my way when I try to tie my shoes. It is not okay to be sore and tired after I mow the lawn. I’m better than that. I can do more than that.

I’m at one and a half months of my lifestyle and eating upgrade. I don’t know if you saw any of my Facebook lives chronicling my journey or not. I’m so glad I got started because now I am reaping the rewards of my work. I’m also glad I’m staying committed.

I see the people in the gym who never stopped going and I remind myself that could have been me and I keep going. I use it as motivation to fuel my workout. I know I can get better. I already am.

What have you let go in your life that you know you should be doing? I invite you to get back to it. Stop making excuses and just make the needed change. You’ll reap so many rewards you’ll be glad you did.

Have a blessed day,

19 Apr 2019

Easter Weekend Ripples

The word bullying brings up many different images depending on your experience with it. You may see a particular face or hear a voice. You may feel emotions that cause you pain. Maybe you were the bully and you feel remorse and shame. Either way the word affects you.

I have worked with people who were bullied and years later it is still affecting them. I have helped people and in a moment watched them transform right before my eyes.

Nothing has meaning except the meaning you give it. If you have a moment in time that is causing you pain or discomfort, I invite you to revisit it with a different set of filters or lenses. Change your point of view so to speak.

This time with you look back I invite you to think of the statement hurt people hurt people. Ask yourself without judgement but curiosity, “What would cause someone to say or do something like that?” “Why would a reasonable rational person behave that way?”

When you remember that hurt people hurt people and you realize the comment made had nothing to do with you and everything to do with them and their pain, you are more likely to see it in a different way. You truly are able to change your past one ripple at a time.

You can heal the pain from your past and watch the healing ripple out into your future. You have the ability to change your past and your future at the speed of thought.

You create your life one thought at a time. I invite you to start thinking about things differently. The struggles of today are building the muscles for tomorrow. You can do hard things. You can make a difference one decision at a time.

It would be my pleasure to gift you a copy of my book Bully Proofing You: Improving Confidence and Personal Value from the Inside Out. All you need to do is go to

Let’s heal some people this Easter weekend.

13 Apr 2019

Heaven Sent

It’s Saturday 1:30 in the morning and I’m in my sewing room mending a pair of my favorite Rock Revival jeans and my husband’s long-sleeved black shirt from the Dragon’s Tail.

“Why?” You ask. With one eyebrow raised and a slight curve to your lips.

“Good question.” I reply with a heavy sigh. “Ellie ran away again last night while I was sitting in my car speaking with Laurence about a break through I had at my Storytelling Workshop.”

I remember her coming out into the garage when I pulled in. She gave me her customary greeting. She usually says “Hello” on the way to the front yard to relieve herself. She also comes back in to get her expected treat.

When said treat was not delivered in a timely manner, she went looking for a delicious morsel from someone else in the neighborhood.

I was still on the phone with Laurence processing what I learned and how I was going to apply it. I totally forgot about Ellie and her ever hungry stomach.

I got out of the car and realized my mistake. I collected her leash and headed down to the neighbors to get her while still conversing on my phone.

She wasn’t there. She wasn’t anywhere. I looked. I called. I asked people.


So, I came home and prepared dinner. Ate dinner. Cleaned up dinner. Went out and called for her from the back porch and then the front. All while still deliberating and pondering the new information with Laurence.

I don’t know about you but when I go through powerful shifts, I get a headache and then very very tired. I just wanted to go to bed but I was worried about Ellie.

I checked my weather app to see how cold it was going to be. Thirty-two degrees but not until 5 am.

I decided to go to bed, set my alarm for midnight, get up, and see if she had found her way home.

At 12:04 am, I was standing on my front porch in my pajamas looking for my dog who wasn’t there. I checked the back porch at 12:08 am.


“I’m going back to bed.” I grumbled. “At least it is still over forty degrees. I’ll call the shelter in the morning and see if they have her.”

I returned to bed but not to sleep.

I might as well get up and be productive, I thought to myself.

I looked at my phone. Answered a couple texts from my kids. Called them because they work nights and have joined the vampire schedule.

Looked out the windows one more time hoping to see Ellie.

Went back to my bedroom and saw the two items I had laid out for repair.

“I might as well fix those. That’s productive.”

When I’m alone, I talk to myself. I’m not sure why but I do. Do you?

I gathered up my pants and Laurence’s shirt and headed to the sewing room. I set down and decided to work on my pants first because the machine had light blue thread already loaded. I prepared the patch, pinned it in place, sewed it, made sure it would hold, and then set it aside.

As I looked up from my work, my eyes came to rest on a plaque my mother had given me some time ago. She crafted it from a card she had given me. My thoughts turned to her and how much she had loved to sew and make little crafty things as she called them.

I lovingly ran my hand over the machine she had once owned thinking of all the cloths, gifts, and household items she had created with it. I felt closer to her and lost all at the same time.

The thoughts and emotions from earlier in the day came flooding back and I started to cry. I hung my head, let the tears roll down my cheeks, and drop on my penguin PJs.

I looked at the sewing machine once again.

“What’s that?”

There was something white sticking out from under the machine.

I lifted my head, wiped my tears off my face, and onto my pajamas. Then I reached for the object and pulled it out. It was a piece of white card-stock paper used in scrap-booking. It had the words Heaven Sent printed on it.

I have no idea how my mom was able to put that powerful message right where I would find it in my hour of need. But, she did. That’s what Mom’s do. They take care of us even after they’re gone from our sight.

I have no doubt that there are angles among us.

If you have lost someone and your heart is breaking wide open because you miss them so much, I’m here to let you know they are with you. They are protecting, loving, and guiding you still. You may not be able to see them but they’re there. I promise.

How do I know?

My mom delivered me a message and it transformed me.

18 Jan 2019

You Don’t Have To Struggle To Be Successful

You don’t have to struggle to be successful.

“What?” You ask. Well, at least you think that if you’re like me.

When my mentor first told me this years ago, I rejected it. I didn’t believe it at all. Now over the last few months, that seed he planted is starting to take root. It’s just a little delicate thing right now but I hope to tend it and let it grow into a powerful source in my life very shortly.

You may be in cognitive dissidence at this moment. You may be saying, “No, struggle means hard by it’s very definition.”

If you look up struggle in the dictionary it says, “1. make strenuous efforts to overcome an adversary. 2. proceed with great effort.”

So, you would be right. I know; now, you’re really confused. Stay with me here.

My new mentor explained things to me in a different way. She said the struggle comes from the emotion I attach to the effort.

It took me a moment at well.

It finally fell into place yesterday. Let me explain.

Let’s say I’m at the gym lifting weights. I’m curling the 20 lbs. dumbbell. I’m grunting and groaning with my face all contorted in the pain and effort. You might look at me and say, “Oh my gosh! She is working really hard.” To which I would agree, and I would feel good that you saw my struggle, recognized it, and gave me the gold star on my forehead I so desperately wanted. I wanted you to feel that way about what I was doing. I wanted you to give me credit for working “so hard”. I wanted your sympathy.

What if I was standing there lifting the 20 lbs. dumbbell with no outward sign of struggle? Would you think I was working hard or just goofing off? Most people would think I was just slacking and should lift more weight. You certainly wouldn’t give me gold star for my “struggle”.

Unless you asked me, you would have no idea how hard I was really working.

I was so addicted to the gold stars from people that I made everything a struggle. I wanted people to think I was strong because I was dealing aka lifting so much. I wanted recognition for my struggle. In fact, I think I wanted the acknowledgement more than my success. Powerful realization.

Now, I am working on staying calm and focused on what I want and not worrying what others are thinking about it. I know how hard or easy it is. I know what I am creating. I know what my future will look like.

I don’t want sympathy. I want success. How about you?

Have a fantastic day,

23 Dec 2018

Merry Christmas from America

Merry Christmas,
After church today, my husband and I went to Mi Rancheto for lunch. We had the pleasure of Viktor waiting on us. Viktor is a very friendly and happy person, so I enjoy sitting in his section.

On an earlier visit with my son, Viktor commented on Max’s watch. It had an American Flag on the face. Viktor stopped what he was doing to tell us how much he loved America. How proud of the fact that he was an American. You could see it in his face as he lit up with his message.

I told my husband about my experience with Viktor from the previous month. As we were leaving, I told Viktor I remembered him and the stories he had told my son and I. He was excited and told us even more.

What a blessing it is to meet someone from another country that loves America. We have so many blessings that it is easy to forget them. The fact that I get to marry whomever I want. The fact that I get to worship whomever I want on the day of my choice. I fact that I can work from home with my dog at my feet. The fact that I can have more than one child. All of these are blessings we receive from being an American.

I know many of my readers are from other countries. I know you have blessings as well. You also have things to be grateful for. I know my country is going through a test of the resolve of our forefathers. I hope it makes it through intact.

I hope we can come together and be united instead of fighting. This Christmas season I invite you to put aside your differences and look for the things in common. I invite you to lead with love for your fellow man. I invite you to give the gift of peace to your community. I invite you to heal some of your pain.

Together we can make things better.

I wish you a Merry Christmas and I hope you have a wonder filled New Year and beyond.

05 Dec 2018

I Love My Life!

I recently had the pleasure of being interviewed on a podcast. This has happened many times before. However, this time was special. When we were done with the interview, they asked me to write an article for their magazine and be on the cover next month. Happy birthday to me. I wanted to share the podcast and the article. Next month I’ll share the magazine interview and the cover.

03 Dec 2018

What Are You Planting?

I recently did a Facebook live that I wanted to share with you. However, I’m not sure how to do that so I’m going to tell you about it.

I love fall. I love the sound, the smell, the nip in the air. The other day I was walking thorough the dry leaves on the side of the path because I love the way they crunch beneath my feet and the smell they release when that happens.

The earthy smell brought up spring. Which lead to thinking of planting a garden. Which lead to my mentoring topic for today. What are you planting?

I know it’s December and you’re not thinking of planting. However, you are planting seeds every day. The thoughts you have are like seeds you plant in the fertile field of your mind. Every thought you have is a seed. The tend that seed by continuing to think about it.

Just like you need to water, weed, and care for the seed of corn you planted in your garden last year, you need to take care of your mind.

“Well, how do I do that, Jeanie?”

I’m so glad you asked. 😊

You water your dream seeds by thinking about your dream. Make it a movie; add bright colors, wonderful sounds, even smells. It’s your movie make it the way you want. Do that daily every morning and night.

Pull out the weeds that will try to choke out your tender dream seed. Tame the Bully Between Your Ears and in your life. If someone, or yourself, tells you that you will never have what you are dreaming of; tell them, “That’s your reality not mine. I choose to create my life with my thoughts. I know it will happen. I just don’t know the time period.”

Get ready for the harvest. Make room for it in your life. If you want a car, get the garage ready. If you want a baby, get the nursery prepared.

Believe. Believe it is going to happen. I don’t know if it will take fourteen days like it does corn or five years like it does bamboo. It might take longer. Have faith and believe it is coming. It just has to grow and so do you.

My mom’s best friend Carol wanted to be a nurse. I remember her sitting in the living room with my mom talking about it. She said, “I’m going to be 61 in three years whether I’m a nurse or not. I might as well be a nurse and be 61.” I have never forgotten that. I may have remembered the time frame incorrectly, but I remember what she meant.

I’m saying it to you. If you knew for sure you would have whatever it is you are dreaming of would you turn it down when it came? Would you say, “No Thank You. I’m 69 now and I don’t want a $1,000,000.” I sure wouldn’t. So, if you would, you can give it to me.

To many people give up on their dreams because they think it is taking too long. Have faith my friend and keep dreaming.

You can listen to it on my podcast if you like. It is different but has the same topic.

21 Nov 2018

Hello, Are You There?

Hey, it’s been awhile. Where have you been?


Don’t tell me.

Working on yourself?

Getting better every day?

Is that a new haircut? :-] Just checkin’


No worries, I’ve been busy myself lately.

Just finished being featured on Bridgetta Tomarchio “Soul Sexy Radio Show” in LA,

What a wonderful woman she is!

Isn’t it great to meet wonderful people? They make you feel ALIVE!

This was something I didn’t have in my past. You see,

When I was younger, I had a number of disabilities.

Some which people would be shocked to know I had and wonder how I can stand here today.

Unfortunately, those disabilities made people judge me.

It came to a point where even my teachers told me daily,

I would never amount to ANYTHING.

Soul shattering words to a little girl who hadn’t even started to live yet.

So, I stopped listening to what people had to say about me.

* No more insults

* No more put downs

* No more negativity clouding my head

I wanted to live life by MY RULES.

There was something in me that needed to be HEARD!

That’s when I discovered it. My voice.

The thing hiding inside YOU.

You’re moments from letting it out just as I was.

ONE decision is all it takes.

After I created my voice and started speaking up for myself,

It allowed me to take control of My Life!

All those uncomfortable opportunities I never took,

Well they switched around completely!

Some sort of spell bound confidence & relief drenched my body & soul!

I’m telling this to you because,

Once you are in that uncomfortable place.

Being totally unfamiliar. Maybe even scared or lost in that place.

You begin to find ways on how to keep pushing.

I’m talking about creativity.

Just imagine what YOU could do if you bully proof your brain?

If you could create ANYTHING you wanted to?

Well you can.

I’ve helped thousands of people like you & me.

Take this chance to work with a group & bully proof each other!

I’m here to help YOUR dreams come to reality.

Simply by protecting yourself!

Alright, I have to run!

I’m about to do my bully proofing exercises and go seize the day!

Love, Jeanie.

P.S.Aren’t you tired of feeling stuck?

Lost? Pushed over & allowing them to get away with it?

I promise you, I’ve been there. I had to start somewhere.

I sought out help. That’s what I am to you today.

There is only so much time in life, stop waiting to enjoy it.

I want to work with you 1 on 1 so you can live the BEST life possible. :-]

Contact me today so you can start living the life you want to.

03 Oct 2018

As Yourself

If you’ve been to one of my live events, you have experienced the power of the label exercise. I have seen it shift and change lives in massive ways. While I can’t recreate here on paper, I can teach you the principles learned from it.

I’m sure you have heard the phrase – Love Your Neighbor As Yourself. Yes?

I just felt the groan that usually accompanies that statement and you’re not even in the room with me. That is how powerful that saying is. It is used to elicit a response from us.

I remember hearing it as a child when I had done something an adult disapproved of.

Then I carried into my life as a club named Guilt to beat myself with.

How about you? Got any Guilt clubs laying around. Did you give yourself a smack with it today?

I invite you to look at that shibboleth with different eyes. Think about the entire word grouping. Not just the first part. Put the emphasis on the last two words. As Yourself.

Think about the things you say to yourself while applying the Guilt club or any number of clubs we use to bully ourselves. Would you say them to someone else?

I heard that one too.

A resounding “NO! I would never say that to someone else. I’m a kind person.”

“Than why are you saying it to yourself?” I ask.

If you won’t say it to someone else, why would you talk to yourself that way? The avowal ends with the words AS YOURSELF. (Capitals added by me for emphasis.)

I invite you to start being nice to you. You are amazing. You are special. You are needed in this time and space.

I invite you to be brave enough to love yourself.  Exercise your courage muscles by being tender and loving toward you.

Have an absolutely fabulous day and bye for now,

12 Sep 2018

Your Setback Proceeds Your Comeback

I was reading 1 Samuel 30 the other day. It is about how David comes back to Ziklag after being gone to find out it has been ransacked and burned by the Amalekites. The Amalekites took every person captive, every person, and carried them off. David’s army wanted to stone him because they are so upset that their homes and families are gone. David had a major setback. His was “greatly distressed” 1 Samuel 30:6. He was upset. He was sad, but he strengthened himself in the Lord. David turned to God and asked Him if he could pursue the Amalekites. The Lord tells him that he can. That he will find victory and recover all.

David pursued; he fought, and he recovered everything. Nothing was lost. David had a comeback.

I was mentoring a client later that day who is going through a setback and struggling. I told him the story of David and his setback.

“Every comeback is preceded by a setback. If you don’t have a setback, you can’t have the comeback.” I said

My friend, I want to give you courage if you are suffering from a setback. I encourage you to turn to the Lord. I encourage you to pray and ask for guidance. Tame the bully between your ears and listen to the voice of truth.

You have a mission. You have a path you are walking that you need to continue. Stay strong. Keep moving forward. You’re needed in this time and space.

What you are doing is good and wholesome; because, I know you. You want to help people. You want to uplift and make this world better. You have an idea that will serve the people; because, you have a pure heart.

If you have made a mistake, as we all have, praise God for His grace and mercy and ask for forgiveness and it is given to you. Make amends to whomever you need to and then get moving toward your dreams again. Don’t stay down. Get back up. You can do this. I know you can; because, you can do hard things.

Joshua 1:9 “Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified, do not be discouraged for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”

You are loved. You are valuable. You are special. You are needed. Now, get to it.

All my love,

15 May 2018

Gold Found

Life happens and it can get you down. I know life feels like it is smashing me from time to time. Do you ever feel that way?

We all have dark times. Those times when we know we are not living up to all that we can be.
You might be thinking, “Wait a minute. I thought you were going to teach me how to always have a fantastic wonderful life.”

Well, I use to think that as well. I often thought, “One day I will arrive. One day I will reach a level where I no longer have problems.” Guess what? That’s not true. You never stay on the same level or in the same spot.

I discovered that you are either pushing forward or falling back. There is no staying the same. Complacency is just another word for retreating. You don’t want things to stay the same, or you wouldn’t be reading this. You want growth in some or many areas of your life. I can help you with that.

The reason I can help you is because I have been to those deep, dark valleys of life—the ones where you want to end your life because the pain is just too much. I changed my mind and made a new decision. I made it out of the deep dark hole and I can help you make it out as well.

I learned to find gold in the valleys.

Yes, Gold.

I’m serious. Everybody is focused on reaching the top of the mountain—and believe me, I’m one of them. I want you to envision a mountain in front of you. This mountain has steep slopes and deep valleys. You’re up to the challenge. You had a great night’s sleep and you’re ready to get going and reach the top.
As you hike up one ridge and then another, you start to feel a little stressed. What did I do? Do I really want this? I’m getting tired you lament but you bolster your courage one more time and head up the next ridge. You think, “This time I will make it to the top. In just a moment I will have arrived.” However, when you get there you realize there is cliff in your way this time. “How could I not see that?” You wail. You can feel the bully between your ears getting excited because he has been waiting for just such a moment to jump on you and beat you down.

“NOT THIS TIME. NO, YOU DON’T. I have tamed you before and I will do it again. I will not let you win. I will make it. I can do hard things and I am worthy of my goal.” You are determined and every step you take shows it.

As you are getting your gear ready for the assent, you notice a creek flowing beside a path over to the right that you hadn’t noticed before. You’ve only been hiking for a while and you realize you’re thirsty and tired. You walk on over and take a nice long cool drink. As the water cools your throat, you give thanks to your heavenly father for providing it for you. While you’re filling your canteen to continue on your journey, you notice a shiny, sparkling spot in the river. You sit down and take your shoes and socks off. You want to find out what it is.

“What if it’s gold?” you ask yourself.

You have just enough hope to think it just might be.

The water is cold as you dip your feet in, but your desire is strong and it actually feels good after the hard trail. You know you can warm your feet in the sun when you’re done, so you forge on. You get out to the spot where you saw the shiny spot. Bend down. Stick your hand into the ice-cold water and pull out a rock.

“A rock?” You exclaim. “That’s not what I saw. I just know it.”

So, you put your hand in the river again. This time you pull out a white rock. It’s pretty but not quite what you were looking for. You just know there is something else there and your desire is strong to know what it is. Soooo, you reach back in. This time you dig around a bit. You move some of the other rocks. You’re searching for what you want. Your fingers are going numb but you continue your steady calm search.
Your fingertips brush something.

“This feels different.” You think to yourself. “It feels smooth and heavy. Heavier than the other rocks I have touched so far.”

You grab a hold of it. Your heart beating wildly now. You just know you have found something of great value. As you pull it from the water, you close your eyes. You are just a little bit afraid to look at it.
“What if I’m wrong?” You query. “I’ve been wrong before.”

You slowly open one eye.

“Just a peek,” you say to yourself.

As your eye settles on the stone in your hand, you gasp and the other eye flies open.

“Am I seeing what I think I’m seeing?” you exclaim.

In your hand, is a large gold nugget. It’s incredibly heavy for a rock, and you notice it’s also twinkling and gleaming up at you.

You found it. Your cold feet and hands are forgotten. Your reward is true and it’s priceless. You will need to have it melted, refined and purified, but it is the nugget you have hoped for and it is right there in the palm of your hand.

“Gold! I found gold,” you shout.

Oh, happy day!

Snoopy Dance time. Your trek to the top of the mountain will now be easier because of the nugget you found. You set a different course and with a happy heart you start your newly improved course.
It is the same when you walk the paths to the dreams in your life. You need to learn to look for the gold nuggets of understanding, knowledge, and new skills.

You can’t always keep climbing up. You can’t stand on the plateau either. Things change and that is a big part of the fun. We like uncertainty with our certainty. We get bored quickly and want something fresh.
Without struggles there is no growth.

The next time you are down in a dark and dreary valley of sadness, loss, depression, anxiety or grief, take a moment and look for the gold. There’s a reason you’re in the valley.

When looking for a gold nugget, it’s especially powerful if you ask yourself, “What am I missing? What do I need to learn? I know there is a reason I’m here. What is it?”

Awhile back, I realized I was using my mother’s death as an excuse to be depressed—and therefore unproductive.  Now, don’t get me wrong.  I had spent some real time in grief. I had processed in lots of different ways. However, after about the third time I found myself in my valley of depression, I asked, “How did I get here?”

“Your mother died,” another voice replied.

“Yes, I know,” I said. “But, how did I get here this time. I don’t just miss my mother… I feel like my entire world is falling apart. How did I get so far down?”

“You wanted an excuse to be depressed,” said the wisdom inside of me. “You wanted some sympathy from others and thinking about the death of your mother is acceptable to move into depression. Others join you in feeling sorry for you and…down the hill you go.”

“Why do I want others to feel sorry for me?” I asked.

“Because you want an excuse to take a break. You’re still not practicing self-care very well.”

“Ah,” I said, seeing some patterns. “So, what you’re saying is; if I would schedule in time for me, I could break this cycle and free myself?”

“Yes, you would be more productive and happy if you just took a little time each day for you. Life is all about cycles. Learn to use yours to further your progress.”

I invite you to find the goal you are missing in your struggles. Let your struggles grow you instead of break you.

You can do hard things, my friend; because you are strong.

Thank you for joining me again.

Have a blessed day,

23 Mar 2018

It’s Not About The Gun

Disclaimer: The following article has not been edited. I do that to encourage you to also speak your mind. It is time to step through your fear and into your voice.


The shootings that have happened in our schools, on our college campuses, in our theaters, at our gas pumps, and in the open spaces of Las Vegas have nothing to do with gun control. The act of horrible violence that tears our loved ones away from us is not about the gun. It is about the fact that hurt people hurt people. It is about the fact that pain isolates and when you are isolated you are separate from others. When the world is viewed through that lens of disconnection, you can perpetuate savagery against those who are different from you.

This colossal problem of hurt people committing mass murder will not be solved by passing more laws or adding more restrictions. You will only solve it by helping people heal their pain. We must teach our children, spouses, neighbors, and coworkers to deal with emotions appropriately.

The first step is to remember we are all human beings that bleed when we’re cut and hurt when we’re labeled different from everyone else. We have a need to be part of the group while at the same time needing to stand out. There is a fine line between rebel and outcast. Many can band together as rebels but nobody wants to be an outcast.

While pain isolates, love connects. We start healing the pain by accepting who we are. We need to be able to strive for a better body while concurrently loving who we are. We have become a land of people who try to numb ourselves with food, drugs, alcohol, sex, violence, movies, music, and video games. Anything we can to just stop the hurting for even a little while.

I invite you to take one small step today to start your healing. I invite you to write down on a piece of paper one thing that is causing you grief. Get out a writing utensil and something to write on. Start with, “I feel ______________ (hurt, sad, frustrated, angry, overwhelmed – pick one) because …”

Let the words flow. Let them come up and out of you so you can get them away and out of your life.

Once you are done writing, take what you have written and shred it or tear it into little pieces, burn it or flush it down the toilet. Do something to get those painful feelings out of and away from you.

Step two is to put in the good. Write about what is good in your life. Write about your incredible dreams for the future. Write about what you desire. Write about what you love; what gives you joy and lifts you up. Write about what you are grateful for. There is so much to be appreciative of. You may be thinking; “Jeanie, you don’t know what I’m going through right now. You have no idea what I’m dealing with.” The only thing that matters in that case is that you are alive and you have the power to change your circumstances. To go deeper into that subject you can pick of many books there are so many that can help you. Of course, I recommend my best-selling book Bully Proofing You: Improving Confidence and Personal Value from the Inside Out.

Whatever you focus on gets bigger, so focus on what is right with you. Put emphasis on happy. I’m not saying to ignore the bad. I’m saying to spend time looking at what is right. I’m saying choose to enjoy things again. I’m saying to fall in love with who you are and where you’re going.

Step three is to repeat steps one and two daily. Take a moment and be grateful for what you have. Take the time to smile at yourself and others. Take the time connect on a deeper level with other humans. If you’re not ready for people, find a pet that you can love and enjoy companionship with.

Take a moment and write down the hurtful feelings you are having so you can get them out of you and away from you. Get out the toxic festering yuck inside of you so you can heal.

Learn to manage your emotions so they don’t manage you.

You have just learned how to stop the violence. Some of you will not do it because it is to simple. Some of you are addicted to the hate and anger and like others to feel the same way. Some of you will take what you have learned and change your life and the lives of your loved ones.

Those mighty souls that have the courage to make a difference are the ones I write for. You are the person that will make the difference. You are the citizen who will change the world. You are the one responsible for stopping the violence and you did it with a writing utensil.

Yes, my friend, the pen is mightier than the sword always.

Thank you for your time and have a blessed day.