You Decide What You Believe

I want you to put on your thinking cap for this one. Today we’re going to talk about something you may have never heard before. I remember when I first learned this concept and how difficult it was for me to understand. I’m going to put it out there, and I want you to let it marinate for a while in your subconscious. Ready? Okay, here we go.

You decide what you believe about yourself. You decide your self-esteem. You put the dollar amount on your personal value. You are responsible for how you feel about yourself. You’re also responsible for teaching it to your children if you have any.

I know what you’re thinking because I’ve heard many of the excuses before. You can call them reasons if you want, but to me they’re still excuses. Society has blamed your parents, your peers, your boss, your grandparents, your teachers, the abuse you suffered, the fact that someone yelled at you or hurt you for your low self-esteem. I’m here to tell you that is not true. You are responsible.

You choose to believe what others say about you. You listen to negative or positive things people say. You tell yourself, “Yup, that’s me.” That’s all there is to it. After you make the decision, everyone else just validates you. You accept or reject, on a case by case basis, what people say to you. You listen to the people that affirm your already formed belief. You reject anything that does not come into alignment.

I warned you this might be difficult. It doesn’t matter if you have a great personal value or a low one. You have been programed to believe others formed it for you. How does it feel to know that you have control over your personal value? Did you just sit up a little straighter? Did you take a deep breath and pull your shoulders back? Doesn’t it feel great to know that you are the master of your fate and the captain of your life?

You no longer have to march to another’s drumbeat. You hold the keys to your future. You no longer have to listen to the negative internal dialog you feed yourself every day. You can change the record. You can put on a new one.

I know I’ve heard that one before also. “Jeanie, I don’t need a high personal value. I do just fine the way I am. Others have done so much more than I. Others have been through so much worse than I. They need me to help them and put myself last.” No they don’t. They are having their own issues. They need to see you standing in your power and lifting them up. When you stand strong, you can help others be more powerful. When you shrink back, they feel the need to be less also. It becomes a cycle up or a spiral down. You decide.

I want you to make the decision to take care of yourself and your needs. Put on your oxygen mask first, so to speak. Be the example for others. Take care of your front lawn so others can take care of theirs.

That little voice that just freaked out and said, “I can’t do that. My whole world will fall apart.”  You really need to do it. Especially mothers.

I find so many mothers putting themselves last and in the process they raise entitled pain-in-the-ass kids. I know you just want what’s best for them, but they can become demanding, spoiled adults. If they see you taking care of yourself, they will learn how to take care of themselves.

I told you today’s message would be a tough pill to swallow. I also asked you to think about it and try it out. Talk to other people you feel are successful and you want to be like, but remember they are human too.

I love it when people stop by and catch my house untidy or cloths piled up for wash. I know their house is just like mine from time to time. I use to think all my neighbors never had dirty clothes or problems. That’s just not true. People are people and they have problems also. Some troubles are the same some are different. God gave you yours because you can handle them. You just have to believe in yourself.

Stop hiding from your power and strength. Step into and be a light for the world. We need more lights because there is a lot of dark to put them in.

I’m looking forward to seeing your light shine today. Good job. I believe in you! You need to also.

Take care,