Discipline Is Not Bullying: It is by divine design

Today, we’ve swung so far toward politeness that we’ve blurred the line between bullying and boundaries. But feedback is not an attack. And discipline isn’t cruelty. It’s how you build trust, safety, and results.

There is a fine line between making someone stronger and bullying.

That line matters. I gave an example on a podcast of a father calling out his daughter’s inappropriate school outfit. Some would label that bullying. But in reality, it was discipline—delivered with a protective intent.

Could he have said it better? Sure. And the intent matters.

Here’s how I break it down:
● Facts: What actually happened?

● Feelings: How did it land?

● Actions: What needs to change?

Just because someone’s uncomfortable doesn’t mean you’re bullying them. Avoiding necessary feedback to keep everyone feeling good? That’s not kindness. That’s leadership neglect.

Your job as a parent and leader is not to be liked. It’s to be clear.