Category: Thoughts and Suggestions

On Nov 14, 2015, I had the pleasure of being hypnotized by Ken Dubner at a New Peaks course. I was astounded by what happened. I have watched hypnotists before but never believed them to be true. I thought the people were paid or asked to act the way they were. NOT SO. It is true.

I was sitting in the audience with my fellow participants of Mission Possible, when Ken came on stage. He did a few exercises to see who was susceptible to being hypnotized.

He had Heidi, a beautiful young lady, come on stage. He asked us to stare at her lovely face. He gave us some other instructions as we did. Then he put a spinning disk in front of her face and told us her head was getting bigger. When he removed the disk, I saw her head expand to the size of a beach ball. It freaked me out, and I screamed. I looked away. I looked back. It did it again. I couldn’t look at her and NOT see her head expand. It was so crazy!

The gentleman sitting next to me was surprised and asked me what I had seen. “Her head got HUGE.” I said. “Didn’t you see it?”

“I didn’t see anything,” he replied.

Then Ken had us imagine there was a balloon tied to our left wrist while at the same time holding a volleyball in our right. The balloon was lifting our left arm up as the volleyball was getting heaver and heaver in our right hand. Then he turned the volleyball into a bowling ball; then he put four bowling balls in our hands. I was so focused on trying to lift the bowling balls I forgot all about the balloon. Those bowling balls were so HEAVY. It took everything I had to try and lift them. He told me to open my eyes. My left arm was straight up in the air and my right hand was almost on the ground. If it had not been for John, the man sitting next to me, it would have been. My arm was on his leg because I couldn’t lift it.

I was amazed at what had happened. I remember thinking, “there is no bowling ball or balloon, how did that happen?” When he asked for volunteers, I ran up to the stage with many others. I had to find out more.

He had more people on stage than he could keep, so he had us do the balloon and bowling ball experience again. AGAIN it was so heavy I couldn’t lift it. It was phenomenal. I was chosen to stay along with eight others. I had no idea what to expect, but I had an open mind and wanted to learn. He took us through some things. I remember him saying we were going into a trance like state.

I remember him telling us to sleep when he touched us. I remember feeling safe, relaxed, and open. I remember he telling us, “Thank you, you have been amazing. Go ahead back to your seats.” While I was walking off stage, I realized I was missing my hat. Kira from the audience had it. I remember thinking, “How did she get my hat?”

I returned to my seat, and John asked me what is was like. I told him that nothing had happened. He looked at me like I was crazy. I returned the look. He asked, “How long were you on stage?” I thought about it and said, “I think about 5 minutes. I don’t think it worked for me.” He looked at me like I had grown two heads. “What?” I demanded. “What time is it?” John asked. I looked at my watch. It was 10:30 pm. I was confused because I had walked up to the stage about 9:00. I didn’t think any more about it because Ken was talking and it was tremendous information about the mind and how it works.

I have studied the conscious mind and the subconscious mind in depth, but he was telling me things I had never thought of. He was taking it to a transformational level for me. It had a tremendous effect on me, and I believed every word.

When the training session was over and I was heading back to my room, a few people made very strange comments to me. I just blew it off and when up to my room. I was sharing the room with three other women: Loraine, Victoria, and Brittney. Loraine was volunteering her time as staff because she had attended before. Victoria and Brittney were attending for the first time along with me.

As I was getting into bed, I remembered Ken telling me I would sleep better than I ever had. I was looking forward to that because I have a hard time getting to sleep most nights. However, once again my mind was busy working on problems from the past, present, and future. I know that is not what I’m supposed to do, and I have struggled with it for years. I was frustrated because Ken had told me I would sleep so well. I told myself, “I get the right amount of sleep for me. I awaken refreshed and well rested in the morning.”

My alarm went off at 5:00 am, and I got up and headed to the gym. I felt really good and had a wonderful workout. I returned to my room to find my roommates talking about something. I knew it was about me because when I walked in they shut up and looked at me. I said, “Good morning everybody.” They told me good morning and asked me how I felt.

“I’m having a great morning. How about all of you?”

“Warrior” Victoria said. I felt this rush of power and excitement I had only felt a few times before. It was amazing. I noticed that Brittney and Victoria had a reaction as well. They started talking again and I was getting my things ready for the day. I noticed something was off so I started listening to what they were talking about.

Loraine was not saying warrior she would say the “w” word. New Peaks has a course called Warrior, but she would not say warrior she would just talk around it. I didn’t understand why. I asked her, “Are you trying to not say Warrior?” Again I felt this rush of power and limitlessness. I knew I could do ANYTHING I put my mind to.

She was afraid to say the word because she didn’t understand our reaction to it. Brittney, Victoria, and I had all been on stage the night before and been hypnotized. Loraine had come back to the room and fallen asleep and didn’t even see the show much less know what had happened. I wasn’t sure what was going on but I felt powerful.

“I’m going to shower and get ready.” I told them

When I was in the shower, it all came back to me. The revolutionary transformation and realization of what had happened the night before struck me like a bolt of lightning. I remembered so much. He told me he was giving me a POWERFUL anchor that I could use anytime I needed strength or encouragement. That powerful anchor was the word Warrior.

I remembered being on stage and thinking the person next to me smelled like Plumeria. My conscious mind was telling me, “She does not!” My body was telling me, “She does too!” I remembered smelling her and being so happy because I love Hawaii and the smell of the Plumeria flower.

I remembered Ken telling me, “When I say the word Sheraton you will think everyone is seating in the wrong seat.” “I will not. That’s just crazy,” my conscious mind said. All of sudden I’m standing there looking at everyone in their chairs not sure what to do.

Ken, “What’s wrong?”

“It’s just not right.”

I took someone’s hand and asked them to come with me to a different seat. Charity, another participant, told me to get back to my seat and stop make problems. Ken told me it would be all right and he had me change seats. I was still concerned and I looked back down the row. Charity glared at me, so I tried to smile at her because I didn’t like that she was mad at me. She glared some more and made the sign for me to zip my lips. I turned to the person next to me and said, “She’s mean.”

“Why?”

“I don’t know why. I didn’t do anything. I was trying to fix it, and she just got mad at me.”

I remember Rodger forgetting his name.

Conscious mind, “How the hell do you forget your name? Ken is willing to give you $100,000 just to say your name and you can’t do it! What is your problem? Let me up there. I can do it.”

Ken, “Rodger, what’s your name?”

Rodger blank stare.

Ken, “I’m going to give you a hint, Rodger. What’s your name?”

Rodger blank stare.

Ken, “Go ahead and sit back down. If you think of it, let me know.”

As soon as Rodger sat back down, he remembered it. Both hands shot into the air and he started saying, “I remember. I remember.”

Ken, “You remember?”

“Yes, I remember.

Ken, “Okay Rodger, come on back up. Now for $100,000, what is your name?”

Rodger blank stare.

Ken, “How about if I make it an even better deal? Rodger for $200,000 what is your name?”

Rodger blank stare.

Ken, “Go ahead and sit back down. If you think of it, let me know.”

Rodger sits down and Charity looks so disgusted with him. She shakes her head and shows him his nametag. He gets all excited and starts jumping up and down to get Ken’s attention.

“I know it. I know it.” He shouts.

“You’re sure this time?”

“Yes, yes! I know it.” Rodger says as he is holding his nametag in his hands.

“Well, come on back up.”

Rodger jumps out of his seat and rushes up to Ken.

“Okay, Rodger, for $200,000 what is your name?”

Rodger blank stare.

“I think this might help,” Ken says while holding up Rodger’s name badge.

Rodger blank stare.

I remember being consciously aware of everything I was doing. I remember thinking I’m not going to do that. Then watching my body do just exactly what I said I would not do. I was never in danger. I was never asked to do anything that might hurt me or compromise me. I was one of the most compelling paradigm shifting things I have ever had the pleasure of experiencing.

I know the subconscious mind runs the body. I know my beliefs are stored in my subconscious mind. I know how awe-inspiring I truly am if I can just get out of my own way. I am powerful beyond measure because Jesus Christ is my King. He wants me to have all that I desire. My worry and small thinking do not serve Him in anyway, in fact they take away from His glory.

I invite you to step into your greatness and live the life you desire. There is so much pain and hate in this world it needs your light to shine. This world needs you to live your purpose so others have hope.

Thank you for letting me share my experience with you.

Have a revolutionary day and live limitless,

It’s Thanksgiving time here in America and I wanted to pause for a moment and let you know how grateful I am for you. Because of you I have kept moving forward. Because of you I have continued to write newsletters and record podcasts. Because of you we have saved lives.

I wanted to share a recent email I received. The following message is as it came to my inbox.

Dear, Ms. Jeanie,
I can’t even begin to tell you how much your response to my email has uplifted me. I don’t what part of the universe, what act of mercy from God made me feel like you were the one person I should reach out to, the one person I should email who might give me some hope. I’m crying as I write because I’m so grateful you took the time out of your day to try to uplift
and encourage me. Your email made me think a lot about how I treat myself. I give love and acceptance to others but how it that admirable if I can’t even do the same for myself. I am a big believer in faith as well so thank you for reminding me to look towards God again. I came across this article that mentioned that God never truly leaves you. You just forget that He’s there. I forgot that even if the world was to turn on me, God knows what’s truly in my heart. He knows that I mean no harm, and I’ve come to the conclusion that, that alone, is enough. I also believe that God sends down Angels in human form to us whenever we need them the most. It might be a silly thought but I truly, in all my heart, believe that I was ment to come across your name in that dark hour last night when I had no one else to turn to. Sometimes the people who can give us the most hope are mere strangers. I believe that God wanted me to reach out to you and tell you my worries because he hasn’t given up on me, to remind me that I still have hope, I still have potential. I could have came across no one to email or emailed someone who wouldn’t even have time to email me back, let alone 3 times. Ms. Jeanie, I don’t know you at all and you have already shown me so much care and love that I am truly moved to tears right now. You had no reason to check up on me, yet you still did. I feel so loved right now, you have no idea. I cant thank you enough. Even if everyone I know was to reject me and call me the meanest names in the world I will always have you to remember. I will always remember that Ms. Jeanie believes that I am valuable, she believes that all I have to do is to learn to love myself. And to learn how to love myself, I will. I pray that you get all the happiness in the world, Ms. Jeanie. God works in mysterious ways and sometimes when it all seems so bleak and gloomy, he pushes you towards hope, towards a reminder that He’s still here. He pushed me towards you. I promise I will not harm myself, I will not bully myself, I will not allow others to determine how I should feel about myself. I will learn to be a woman of strong character. I will work on building a strong, indestructible foundation for myself. That I promise you, Ms. Jeanie. You have truly given me hope. You are my human angel. And if it ever seems tough, and I need a little push, a little reminder, I will turn to you again. Thank you so much for being a friend, a calming voice for me when I was so so confused. I promise that I will work to build a loving and mutual relationship with not only God, but myself as well. I believe when you love God, you are also loving yourself. Thank you so much. For everything. We may never meet but know this, you have truly changed my whole outlook on life. I have hope. And I will never give up, I will always remember what you have done for me. You checked up on me and that, to me, is most loving and caring gesture. I’m overwhelmed by your kindness. Thank you. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. I will always remember you whenever I feel isolated and alone. An I will pick myself back up. I know I did not come across your name online as a mere chance, a mere coincidence Ms. Jeanie, I hope you always smiling because you made this confused girl smile again. Your kindness means to world to me. I will not give up on myself, Ms. Jeanie. I promise

-Sadie

Because of you we are bully proofing the world one community at a time by improving confidence and personal value from the inside out.

THANK YOU SO MUCH for your support.

May you be blessed this holiday season,

I cut my finger open and it is hard for me to type so today I’m going to ask you to listen to my podcast on iTunes. You can listen at https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/bully-proofing-you-improving/id971908617?mt=2&ls=1 or on my website at www.bullyrpoofingu.com

Let me know what you think by leaving a rating.

Thank you for understanding.

Have a wonderful day,

This is the day you receive all God has in store for you. This is the day you make the decision to live life to its fullest. This is the day you decide to live life instead of hiding. This is the day you choose to tame the bully between your ears and go for it. This is the day you decide to live limitless.

Psalm 118:24 says, “This is the day the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.” Today I want you to choose to love your life. Right now in this moment make the decision to LOVE YOUR LIFE. It will change everything. I promise you.

For the next forty days, when you open your eyes in the morning say, “I love my life.” It might take a while for it to become a reality for you; after all how many days have you been waking up saying the opposite of this? Give it some time, and then let me know how profoundly your life has changed.

When I was younger, I use to be afraid of God. I read the book of Job in the Holy Bible and became terrified that would be my life. Then I started looking at other passages. One in particular stuck with me. It is Jeremiah 29:8 which reads, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” God wants to prosper you. His word is hope. He has an incredible future waiting for you. All you have to do is believe in Him and take action to make it so.

The problem for me was the believing. I had a hard time having faith in the things I couldn’t see. I wanted to see it and then believe it. My friend it does not work that way. You must believe it so you can see it. In times of difficulty turn to God and His word so it can lift you up and place you on the higher path. His path. He is always there with His hand reaching out to help and support you. You need to stop swatting it away and grad ahold.

Rejoice in this day and be glad for it is another day to live life to its fullest. Rejoice in this day and be glad for it is another day to learn and grow. Rejoice in this day and be glad for it is another day for you to live limitless.

I love my life.

I am limitless through Jesus Christ my Lord.

God bless,

What would it be like to be truly limitless? What would it feel like to have a healthy vibrant body? What would it feel like to increase your business income 20,000% in three years, ten months, and ten days? How would it change your family life to be able to take a family vacation every month? How much deeper would your connections be with your children and your spouse? How would it feel to be truly limitless?

I have had the most profound experience. The experience of taking my speaking career from an idea on January 8,2012 to a thriving business. A business that on October 14, 2015 was negotiating $500 per contract to one that started negotiations for a $100,000 contract on October 16, 2015. Yes, you read that right–from $500 to $100,000. Don’t believe it? I wouldn’t have either if I hadn’t lived it.

Would you like to know more? On January 8, 2012, I was given the opportunity to make a decision that set my life on a totally new trajectory. April 11, 2012 I had the pleasure of meeting one of many mentors in my life who would lead me to where I am now– my life of limitless possibility.

I want to help you live such a life. I want to help you take the first of many steps that will lead to your limitless life. Would you like to join me? Are you scared? So was I when I made the decision that led me to where I am now. But guess what, it will be just fine if you trust in God and have the courage to move forward.

I look forward to working with you.

Let me know how I can serve you.

Have a limitless day,

Since my honorable discharge from the Army, 30 July 1999, I have not wanted to use a gun against another human being. I have been so blessed because I live in The United States of America. In the past, we have not had to deal with attacks of the nature we are now. I believe there are many reasons for these attacks which I will not go into at this time. However, I still believe in the right for people to bear arms if they pass a back ground check.

In fact, I feel it has become a necessity for every person of sound mind to carry a weapon to protect their family and friends. My husband and I both have concealed carry permits. Many times he open carries his weapon. It is amazing the reactions we receive. Mostly it is other fathers that tell him, “Thank you, I feel safer now.” Some are in the process of earning their permits. Some will ask what kind of a weapon he carries and why. Most don’t even notice it.

There are many statistic sites on the internet with differing information on guns and the deaths caused by them each day and each year. I’m not sure which one to site or believe. You can look them up and make your own decision. However, whatever the facts truly are, I know that passing a law and trying to control guns will never work.

It is already unlawful to shoot people. People who have deadly intent will not be stopped by another law. Making it harder for law-abiding citizens to obtain a gun to protect themselves will not stop criminals from getting one. If that were true, there would be no crime of any kind especially violent crime or drug use.

My question to you is hypothetical and it is to get you to think about your future. What would have happened in the Umpqua Community College classroom if one of the students or the teacher had been carrying a gun and knew how to use it to defend?

I believe no one would have died except Chris Harper-Mercer. How many more innocent people are going to die before we start defending ourselves and our loved ones?

I hope we bring God back into our country soon because he is desperately needed. That is one of the reasons why we lived such a blessed life in this beautiful country. We looked to a higher power for guidance and we loved our neighbor as ourselves.

My plea to you is to get back to that way of life. Our future depends on it.

I hope you have a paradigm shifting day,

I know you’ve heard this before. I know you do a good job of it. Except, I bet you said some things to yourself this past week that you would never think of saying to your neighbor. Am I right? Stop putting yourself down. Stop putting yourself last. You are valuable and you need to start treating yourself as such.

The next time you want to get mad at yourself for a mistake you made. Stop it! Would you get mad at your neighbor for the same offense? Would you cut your loved ones some slack and not be as hard on them? Than why are you so hard on yourself? You’re a model for your family.

If you get mad at yourself, they will get mad at themselves. It doesn’t matter what you say. It matters what you do. Start treating yourself with respect and love and those around you will do the same.

Last week I talked about paying the price for past transgressions. You might have to do that here. Things won’t be any different at first and you might think it’s not working. Believe me it is. How long have you been mad at yourself? How long have you said mean things to yourself? You have to repay that pain and loss. It won’t happen overnight but as you continue loving yourself and being nice to yourself you will create a new habit.

One day you will wake up and realize the world around you has changed. It is gentler, kinder, more understanding. You can love yourself and still hold yourself accountable. You can love others and still hold them accountable.

I use to think that loving my neighbor meant I had to put up with whatever they chose to do. That is a bunch of poppycock. You don’t.

When you love and value yourself, you hold yourself in high regard. When you realize your value, you can see value in others. People that are mean and rude don’t see value. They are in pain and they want you to be in pain as well. It is your responsibility to show them a different way. You need to love yourself so others can love themselves.

When you love your neighbor as yourself, you are kind to everyone. People earn your love just because they are human. That does not mean you tolerate their bad behavior. Do you love your family and your friends? Do you hold them accountable for their actions? Do you guide them and give them advice? Sometimes do you just walk away and let them figure it out on their own? It is the same with others outside your family.

You can love someone and not agree with what they do. You can value the humanity in someone, but not want to be around them because of their actions. That is what “love thy neighbor as thyself” means to me. Loving humanity, but making the decision to let some people just go their own way and live their life as they see fit. As long as they are not hurting anyone, they have that right. So do you.

Today love yourself just a little more. Value yourself so the value of others rises. Let’s lift this world to a higher plan shall we? All together now, lift! I felt it did you?

Have a paradigm shifting today and every day,

I know you’ve heard this before. I know you do a good job of it. Except, I bet you said some things to yourself this past week that you would never think of saying to your neighbor. Am I right? Stop putting yourself down. Stop putting yourself last. You are valuable and you need to start treating yourself as such.

The next time you want to get mad at yourself for a mistake you made. Stop it! Would you get mad at your neighbor for the same offense? Would you cut your loved ones some slack and not be as hard on them? Than why are you so hard on yourself? You’re a model for your family.

If you get mad at yourself, they will get mad at themselves. It doesn’t matter what you say. It matters what you do. Start treating yourself with respect and love and those around you will do the same.

Last week I talked about paying the price for past transgressions. You might have to do that here. Things won’t be any different at first and you might think it’s not working. Believe me it is. How long have you been mad at yourself? How long have you said mean things to yourself? You have to repay that pain and loss. It won’t happen overnight but as you continue loving yourself and being nice to yourself you will create a new habit.

One day you will wake up and realize the world around you has changed. It is gentler, kinder, more understanding. You can love yourself and still hold yourself accountable. You can love others and still hold them accountable.

I use to think that loving my neighbor meant I had to put up with whatever they chose to do. That is a bunch of poppycock. You don’t.

When you love and value yourself, you hold yourself in high regard. When you realize your value, you can see value in others. People that are mean and rude don’t see value. They are in pain and they want you to be in pain as well. It is your responsibility to show them a different way. You need to love yourself so others can love themselves.

When you love your neighbor as yourself, you are kind to everyone. People earn your love just because they are human. That does not mean you tolerate their bad behavior. Do you love your family and your friends? Do you hold them accountable for their actions? Do you guide them and give them advice? Sometimes do you just walk away and let them figure it out on their own? It is the same with others outside your family.

You can love someone and not agree with what they do. You can value the humanity in someone, but not want to be around them because of their actions. That is what “love thy neighbor as thyself” means to me. Loving humanity, but making the decision to let some people just go their own way and live their life as they see fit. As long as they are not hurting anyone, they have that right. So do you.

Today love yourself just a little more. Value yourself so the value of others rises. Let’s lift this world to a higher plan shall we? All together now, lift! I felt it did you?

Have a paradigm shifting today and every day,

Everything you have, you deserve for one reason or another. Either you worked hard and earned it, or it was given you out of love. I believe there is a group of people that feels entitled to something just because they are alive and breathing. They feel because they have had a “hard time” they should be given things.

I don’t agree. Everything you’re entitled to you have already received. Your life, your mind, your heart, and your body were all given to you at birth. That is all you get for free in this life. It is up to you to create the life you desire. You have so far.

The life you are living right now you have created through your responses to the stimuli that have impacted you. If you want a different life, you have to react differently. When I was a teacher at Summit High School in Alpine School District, I would have students lament about their circumstances.

“Jeanie, why can’t I go home? I’ve been good and passed my drug tests. It’s not fair!” a student would ask of me.

“Timmy (the name is changed), how long have you been breaking the law? Not, when where you caught? Not, what did they charge you with? But, how long have you been breaking the law in your 16 years?” I would ask.

“Since I was ten or twelve” was the typical response. We would then have a discussion pertaining to the cost that must be paid.

“So, you’re telling me that you think your debt of four years is paid in three months? It doesn’t work that way. Everything in life has a price you must pay. You did things that were wrong. You hurt people. You made bad decisions, and now you think society should just write it off.”

I don’t think society should write it off. I think criminals should pay for their offense. I don’t know all the answers, but I think a great start would be having them work and earn their privileges.

We have some serious problems with our justice system, our welfare system, and our work standard for youth. How can we expect our young adults to become competent upstanding members of our communities if we don’t allow them to work, if we don’t require them to be responsible?

If you are a parent or an educator, you have to the ability to make some changes right now in your home and in your classroom. I know you want your children to have it easier than you did. I know you want to protect others from pain. That is part of being a caregiver.

The other part of being a caregiver is holding people accountable for their actions. Freedom is gained through responsibility, discipline, and accountability. It is harder to change a habit than it is to create the good habit to begin with. There is a cost for everything. You received your body and mind for free; however, it is up to you to take care of them.

Are you gaining some weight you feel you should lose? You need to pay the price and change your habits. You need to exercise more.

Do you smoke? Guess what? You will pay the price in lung cancer, medical bills, and death.

If you choose to not work and live off of government assistant, you won’t be going to Hawaii anytime soon.

What have your decisions and habits created for you? The life you are living right now. Instead of wishing things were different or trying to take from someone who has paid the price. You can take actions today that will change your trajectory to a better tomorrow.

What things are you going to change? Let me know.

Thanks for joining me again.

Have a wonderful day,

Have you ever had the rug pulled out from under your feet? Have you ever been running so hard for a dream you didn’t see the wall coming at you? It hurts when you hit that wall. It can hurt so bad you don’t want to get up. It can leave you broken and scared with no desire to go on. But guess what; there is hope.

You can change it. When you get knocked down, the sooner you can change your thoughts from one of defeat to one of strength, the faster you will be on your way again. We all have doubts about if we are doing the right thing. Okay, I have doubts, and I think others do too. I came to realize a short time ago that doubts are the Devil trying to stop you.

Napoleon Hill wrote a book called Outwitting the Devil. His publisher and family were afraid to print it. They were afraid of the backlash that might happen. Recently it has been published with Sharon Lechter as editor and adding her thoughts. I highly recommend you get a copy today and start reading and applying it.

You know how I’ve been telling you to fulfill your purpose. That if you don’t, there will be a hole that no one else can fill. That is exactly what the Devil wants. He doesn’t want you to live in your purpose so he plagues you with doubt and fear so he can stop you. If he stops you, he wins. Please don’t let him win.

Fight him with everything you’ve got. Change your thinking and change your life. When you hit that wall and want to stay down, DON’T. Get up move forward again. Focus on the solutions. Focus on how this change can be a good thing. Realize the path to your dreams is not a straight line. It will have twists and turns you never dreamed of. It is all because of the things you must learn so you are ready to receive your dream.

The reason you haven’t achieved what it is you are working so hard for is because you still have things to learn. The sooner you learn those lessons, the smaller the wall. It’s when the lesson comes at you and you resist it or shy away from it that the wall gains in size and strength.

I had an acquaintance in college who drove like a maniac. She was always speeding and weaving in and out of traffic. I refused to ride with her she was so scary. Everyone told her to change her habits, but she didn’t listen.

She got in some accidents, but initially they didn’t affect her either. She continued to drive crazy. She is now a quadriplegic because of her last accident. She was late for work. I don’t think it mattered. She was in the habit of driving like a manic. It wasn’t the excuse of being late that caused her to drive that way. It was her habitual thinking of “I have to hurry” that lead to the insane driving that lead to her current condition.

Her boyfriend was the one who found her car smashed on the side of the road with her in it. He was on the way to talk with her father about his proposal for marriage. Yes, they did get married, but it is so different than they had both dreamed of.

Does she wish now she would have listened to the advice of others? Of course she does. It’s not too late for you. You can learn the lesson that is before you. You can make the right decision. You can overcome whatever is plaguing you right now, get up, and move forward again. I know you can because so many others have before you.

Think about the good that will come from the challenge that is before you today and keep moving forward.

Let me know how it goes.

Have a blessed day,

In my training and publications I always refer to personal value. The other day someone asked me why that is. “Why don’t you just talk about self-esteem?” This person asked me. There are two reasons and I thought I would share them with you because if she has that question I’m sure others do as well.

If you type esteem into google is says: “respect and admiration, typically for a person.” Therefore, self-esteem is how much you respect or admire yourself. If you look esteem up in the Merriam-Webster dictionary it says: “high regard.” How you feel about yourself, like yourself, and/or others.

Look up value and you will find it says: “how much something is worth.” Google value and you will find: “the regard that something is held to deserve; the importance, worth, or usefulness of something.” It takes it just a little bit further. It dives deeper into your value.

The #1 reason I use “personal value” is the usefulness, importance, and worth that goes into it. You must decide to value yourself then you take action to build that value. When you value something, you treat it well.

I tell a story in my book that clarifies this point but let me give you a quick example here. Think about your home and where things are. The things you value are taken care of and treated well. If nothing is valued, everything is thrown around, dirty, getting walked on; then you need to look at why. Why do you not value your things?

What do you value? I could tell the moment I walked into your home. You can also. Take a moment today and look at what you value. What holds most of your attention? What is well cared for and what is not? The more value you place on something the better you care for it.

The second reason: I really like the word grouping. It reminds me that I decide my value because it is personal value not the neighbor value or friend value.

Decide today to increase your personal value. Now behave how a person with that much value would act. Treat yourself and demand that others treat you as the valuable person you are.

Thanks for listening.

Have a revolutionary day,